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The Moralists

August 27, 2014

Dalrock has a post that in the last few days has been gaining traction to becoming quite epic.  The original post discussed a young Christian woman who retained her virginity until marriage and then afterwards discovered she has some serious sexual dysfunctions.  It is obvious reading her story that she has some serious emotional issues as well.  From reading her story it is plain that she was taught that sex was shameful and dirty before she even reached puberty and understood what sex even was.  This is a common teaching that young people receive in almost every church to one degree or another.  These attitudes are not easily changed once a woman finally marries and sex becomes ok literally overnight.  The church’s repression of healthy attitudes about human sexuality and our natural sexual desires is just as ominous as the promotion of female promiscuity which the church also accepts and legitimizes.

It is not difficult to see that the origins of this young woman’s harmful attitudes about sex originated from with her church’s indoctrination and its foundational belief system.  Although she is a stout feminist, her attitudes about sex were likely fully ingrained into her belief system before she accepted the feminist ideology wholeheartedly.  It is important to point out that mixing modern church doctrine with feminist beliefs will almost always cause sexual dysfunction and unhealthy repression in not only women but men as well.

THE DISCUSSION

I submitted several questions and gave some hypothetical’s of issues pertaining to the main topic that I hoped would be discussed in a rational manner.  I also made a few statements to help guide things along.  These were legitimate concerns that many men do have when reevaluating their personal beliefs after taking the red pill.

What resulted was some men decided to mischaracterize what I said and then decided to engage in thinly guised character attacks.  I did not enter into these discussions really caring about what these other men and women think about me personally, nor do I currently care.  What is important is that the message gets through.  The level of debate, emotion, and rationalization from the church men this discussion caused tells me I struck some very raw nerves, which I will explain below.  That is good.  That was the point.  However many of the men who held themselves out as morally superior (moralists) avoided and ignored the most important points and questions I asked.  They engaged in a type of anti-intellectualism that for some of us well read individuals greatly annoys us.  However, not everyone did this, and not everyone held themselves out as a moralists.  These individuals greatly added value to the discussion.  This is pretty long but the problem is big and the solutions must be hashed out.

I will admit that some of my points were not as clear as they should have been.  My mind works extremely fast and as it happens at times, many of these ideas came to me in one fell swoop while I was writing my comments.  I believe this caused some confusion and if so I hope to clarify that here.  Also, because of the personal nature of some of the criticisms against what I wrote and the length of this essay I decided to post here on my blog and link back to Dalrock’s post instead of posting a simple comment.  I am going to break this up into a few different posts so bear with me.

One thing you may notice is that I no longer refer to myself as following any sect or religion.  The thing I find most disagreeable is hypocrisy.  For me to not be a hypocrite myself, for the many reasons below, I am no longer willing to identify as a Christian or promote the church in any way.  I feel by doing so could be harmful to good men by possibly encouraging him to join an organization where he is almost guaranteed to be hoodwinked by the feminine imperative.

ALPHA AND BETA

I am not going to get into a big what is Alpha and what is Beta discussion.  There are enough good resources out there if you want to know more.  However, what those two terms, and other like it such as Omega and Gamma, they are merely adjectives that encompass different sets of behavior patterns, attitudes and personality traits.  All three of these things can be changed in a man to a greater or lesser degree if necessary to achieve certain goals and objectives.  Many men often have a mix of these qualities.  The terms therefore are used loosely in my essays when I use these descriptive attributes.

THE QUESTIONS I PRESENTED

Is sex in a loving committed monogamous relationship just as moral as sex in the current Marriage 2.0 scheme where men are likely to lose?

Is sex between an unmarried man and women in a loving, committed, monogamous relationship inherently sinful?

Is it absurd and unrealistic to expect all unmarried Christian men to remain celibate when there is no other viable and rational option for sexual gratification other than entering into Marriage 2.0?

THE POINTS AND STATEMENTS I MADE

Church doctrine about human sexuality cases more problems and dysfunctions due to the inherent shame that surrounds most churches beliefs concerning sex in general.  This shame manifests itself in men and women even after they marry creating sexual issues in the marriage.

There is no consistency in church doctrine from one denomination to another concerning human sexuality, sex in marriage, marriage and divorce.  Most churches do not uniformly enforce its own edicts and local customs, even ones that are vigorously promoted within that church organization.  Many denominations refuse to teach the entire counsel of God.  The inconsistency on such issues such as divorce have ramification that could affect the salvation of the parties involved.  So how does a man know what teaching is truthful and which ones are in error causing him to sin?

Biblical marriage no longer exists because the state has usurped the bibles’ authority over family, marriage and sexual matter by legislative fiat.  Marriage 2.0 is a government promoted institution to ensure that the state has jurisdiction over a man, his assets and his children for later disbursements to his ex-wife should she choose to divorce him.  For biblical marriage to exist there needs to be social controls in order to discipline transgressors of biblical law.  Civil law would need to match biblical law.

Because biblical marriage no longer exists, a man may engage in sexual relations with a woman who he has a loving committed and monogamous relationship with without incurring the wrath of God or everlasting damnation.  God knows a man’s heart and will judge him according to that.  God will not judge a man for not following and unjust law or religious edict.  Godly suffering comes from God.  God would not place an impossible burden on a man and then call it a sinful should the man choose to opt out of trying to meet that impossible burden.

Additional points and questions relevant to the overall theme of this series and the previous points that were discussed will follow in subsequent essay in this series.

Next essay: Celibacy

One Way Media

The Gamer Slut saga exposes several real issues affecting our society especially concerning how men are generally perceived by the modern woman.  America’s youth has been sufficiency corrupted by the media’s one sided attack on positive masculinity. The majority of America’s young women have so many conflicting ideals about true femininity that they are literally unable to sustain a positive relationship that involves trust, respect and love. The media has for years portrayed all men as either blundering fools needing women’s leadership or as outright brutal rapist’s.

Two video bloggers Jordan Owen and David Aurini are working on a project called The Sarkeesian Effect.  It seems like a good project and I am interested to see how this video will affect the narrative about internet and media censorship.  Check it out.  The link on Patreon is HERE.

We know where that cancerous message comes from.  It is important for both men and women to speak out against these promoters of hate and misandry.  Only by speaking out and educating our youngest generation can we possible have a chance at saving our once beloved republic.

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WARNING – There will be boobies

Another Day, Another Total Slut. 

 

This gem of a story was originally found by Vox at Alpha Game.  I was going to comment there but my comment turned into this article.

It is apparently the month of the sluts.  I know it is often fun to discuss the most egregious cases of modern women’s sluttery.  This one is Zoe Quinn and she earns a Total Slut™ award.  She even has her own meme.  This one has green (purple, red) hair, tattoos, and piercings and has done porn for various sites, one of which is called Broken Dolls.  As if that wasn’t warning enough to her now scorned ex boyfriend (Eron), she had cheated on him repeatedly by fucking at least 5 other men in order to get ahead in the gaming industry.  I am still wondering if this story is better or worse than the 12 BB cocks in one night, however that is not even the important part of this story.  Her response (original rant) to all of this on her own blog was nothing but hamsterbation.  She has a strong one indeed.

The gamer community is up in arms, and rightly so because there are issues that are bigger than a green haired slut doing what sluts will do.  If it was just her slutting around, it would just be another article warning men to stay away from these types of women.

This woman has used her victim complex and vagina to gain recognition and somehow launch herself into relevancy among gamers and her fellow feminists and SJW’s.  Her claim to fame in the Gaming industry is a game called Depression Quest.  Yes, I lolllzz’ed too.  She has additionally been accused of misappropriating donated monies, lying, adultery and overt manipulation of individuals, including organizers of charity fundraisers, all to further her ambitions.

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Suppression Quest: The White Knight Rises

She must have been totally wild in the sack to have these many white knights defending her.

The worst part is that she has no redeeming physical qualities that you can’t find in less then five minutes. She muse have fantastic head game.

There seems to be ongoing censorship of any stories and discussions about her getting banged out by these various men who were influential in her getting ahead in the gaming industry and who helped her career along.  She is apparently using those same connections along with her army of feminists and mangina’s to quell any and all dissent.  Stories about her have been censored on Reddit here and here, Tumblr, 4chan, and Twitter, just to name a few.

This is troublesome on a very large scale because if ONE skanky chick has the influence to shut down an entire website covering the scandal and influencing major social media sites to do so as well, what might happen to any one of us in the ‘sphere when we piss off the right (or wrong) feminist?  Dalrock has already had experience with this here.  This is nothing new as The Spearhead pointed out in 2012. It just came to my attention that this may be part of a larger systematic purge and censorship effort in support of SJW’s and feminist women.  If the Vox Popoli story is valid, and I have no reason to believe otherwise watching this happen in real time, the powers that be are willing to sacrifice free speech and information independence over the reputation of a couple of disturbed and corrupt young women.

The gaming community has had several brushes with PC feminists, notably when Adria Richards was fired for tweeting a photo of two men who did nothing more than share a joke amongst themselves, which she happened to overhear.  The linked article by CBS references Sheryl Sandberg and her book “Lean In” as influential in the targeting and persecution of men who offend feminists in tech companies.

Internet censorship is a big fucking deal.  Its importance is up there with the 1st and 2nd amendments.  This is due to the nature and reasons for sharing information.  He who controls the flow of information wins.

Quinn’s supporters have taken to calling anyone who criticizes her actions or her cheating as slut shamers.  I suppose in our brave new misandric world shaming a woman for cheating, not once but on at least 5 separate occasions is unholy and heretical to the feminine goddess.  Fuck them I say because she is a slut.

 

Borderline Personality Disorder

This woman is an attention whore of the highest order.  She has lied about getting hacked, threatened, being doxed (having your personal info put out in the web) and of course she lied to her ex repeatedly about banging all of those other men.  One illuminating aspect of her behavior was that she was very concerned about her ex even talking to other women.  She played the continuous victim and of course was hyper sexual.

I would have to speculate that many if not most of the women who are sex positive feminist have a form of BPD.  Hypersexuality is a strong indicator of this disorder.  By itself you might just have a fun girl to play with, but with the other symptoms and indicators it is easy to spot these women once you know what to look for.  All you have to do is check out their blogs and Tumblr’s to see that most of them have these indicators.  Most of these women have severe self image problems and suffer from depression.  Most will say that they have been abused on many occasions by many different individuals and almost all talk about a bad childhood.  What is usually the case is that they are in fact the abusers.  Fidelity is rare with these types of women.  They also fear abandonment and that could be one of the motivators behind these women’s infidelity.  Even though she may have a personality disorder she should never be given leniency concerning her behavior.

BPD women have an uncanny knack to making men fall hard in love with them.  I have experienced, Rollo had experienced it also and I hope no other man has to experience dealing with a woman like this, but many will because these women are prolific in our society.  Men will fall for them because they are mimics.  These women are empty inside and our id is attracted to the mirror image of ourselves that is projected back at us by them.  What we find out though is that we were in love with an illusion, a pretend person.  As these women age, they become absolutely irredeemable.  The energy required to be in a relationship with these types of women is huge because they will sap a man’s energy and life force out of him over time.  It’s important to note this guy was having panic attacks while she was attacking strange cock.  She then manipulated him into thinking the attacks were his irrationality.  He knew something was up.  Most men do feel this in their gut.  His gamma behaviors aside, this is a very strong indicator and should never be ignored.  Once a man tells her he loves her, the relationship will spiral to its destruction very quickly.

She had been previously married.  Her narrative about her past is essentially she hates her mother, her ex husband and is now vilifying the ex boyfriend.  She called her mother and ex husband abusive and the boyfriend being the white knight that he is, bought that story hook, line and sinker.  It was implied in her ex’s blog that she was the abusive one to both her mother and ex husband.  The boyfriend is a gamma chump, white knight, captain-save-a-ho, and mangina all in one who got cuckolded and even went back to her to be cuckolded again.  This is the exchange between them.  It ends with her making suicide threat (attention whoring) and him going over to “watch” her.  I am not a gracious as Vox and many other because he should have known she was a skank. His attempts to “discuss” her actions with her in light of her lying about her getting banged out just confirms that he deserves what he gets.

Remember this type of girl will always cheat on you, and like her ex stated on his blog, “she was making out with me less than 12 hours after she had another man’s cock in her mouth”.  Fuck, I just hope he didn’t go down on her.  Yuck, I need a shower and a drink after that thought.

The exchange is interesting in that you see both a BPD in action and you see a super strong hamster running hard in this woman.  This woman uses every tactic in the book with this guy and everyone else.

I have to wonder why people have these types of conversations via text and email versus face to face or on the phone?  No wonder the young have such shitty interpersonal skills.

 

The Truth About feminism

Quinn is the poster child for not only the average millennial woman, but she is the poster child of modern feminism.  Over the past several years she has been the championed sweetheart of all schizophrenically hair colored, tattooed, pierced, mentally disturbed, antidepressant popping, sex positive sluts and their white knight mangina supporters.  She has championed such important causes such as “all men are rapists”, “I can fuck whoever I want, whenever I want”, “don’t ever judge me”, and “its only wrong if a man does it”.

One of her typical supporters:

“Sorry. Her personal life is none of our concern. Instead of pointing out that she fucked with 5 different people in the space of two months (I did it with 4 in the space of three and I’m a volunteer EMT, so I don’t think fucking around somehow negates that I put a vast amount of time helping other people in exchange for nothing)”

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So what is the lesson here?  ALL WOMEN have the propensity and instinct to do shit like this.  Your wife, girlfriend, mother, whatever.  All of the opportunities were there, the situations were there, and of course the motivation was there.  A woman normally NEVER tells her lover her true number.  This is an example of that behavior in action and the rationalizations that go through such a woman’s head.

In the various comment sections it is encouraging to read about many young men finally calling BS on feminism and misandry in general.  I realize it is hard for them due to the steady and intense indoctrination these young men go through today.  I have younger friends and it is so hard sometimes to teach them some of the basic truths that were common knowledge only 20 years ago.

It’s still a minority but I do see very rational comments discussing this issue, misandry, corruption and hitting hard against feminism.  That is encouraging.

“Heroes and villains don’t exist” … just gray, gray clouds of amorality… no moral choices.. do whatever gets you power and money and sensual pleasure.. fuck anyone, regardless of commitments. Fuck anyone for any reason, for profit, for career advancement, just fuck everyone, even if you tell everyone else that’s something you’d never do, in the Name of Feminism, fuck everyone, fuck ‘em.

This woman is truly a piece of garbage whose petri dish of a vagina needs to sewn shut in order to prevent further harm to humanity.  She has fucked, lied, stole and manipulated a lot of people to get to where she is at.  It would be great to see her completely ostracized from the gaming community and internet.  Unfortunately I see her getting famous over this and cashing in because people in general are stupid and there are too many white knights gamma’s who will sell their soul just to have their turn with this disease ridden skank.

So there we have it, lies, conspiracy, corruption, steamy sex, jilted lovers, sex for favors, and threats of suicide.  It really does not get any better than this.

 

EDIT: The links below tell much more of the story from different angles.  There are several important issues at play here.  The story about an ugly slut cuckolding her beta boyfriend is the least important part of this story.

LINKS FROM THE ‘SPHERE

The lady that protests too much – Alpha Game

Video Game Developers are Sexiss [Now UPDATED] – Malcolm the Cynic

Kotaku and the Quinnspiracy – Vox Popoli

Zoe Quinn can go fuck herself – Judgy Bitch

http://www.rooshvforum.com/thread-39616.html – Roosh

How Zoe Quinn Screwed Her Way Through The Video Game Industry – Return of Kings

“Sliming Her Vagina Across the Video Gaming World” – Captain Capitalism

Zoe Quinn, Phil Fish and the Great Social Justice Swindle – Matt Forney

You can fight a lot of enemies and survive, but if you fight your biology you will always lose.  (Lord of War 2005)

Destruction

This is a true philosophical statement, ironically made by arms dealer Yuri Orlov.  In Sometimes You Just Have to Look, I noted that men and women will act according to their instincts and it is these instincts that guide both genders to behaving how we do.  That essay was in response to women being upset that their husbands and boyfriends sometimes look at other attractive women.  The sites owners (a marriage counselor) make it a point to counsel men that this behavior is absolutely unacceptable.  What he is really doing is telling men that our natural urges and instincts are shameful, thus adding to the socialization of men to be more feminine.  This creates in us a dissonance between the natural and the social.  This marriage counselor goal is to bring equality to marriages by telling men to act more like women.  That will not work in the long term.

Fighting to uphold positive masculine values is difficult enough in this modern anti-male environment.  If it was only the female feminists we fought against, the war that is waged everyday could actually be winnable while maintaining some semblance of civilization after the fall and the dust clears, but because the indoctrination of the Feminine Imperative has infected our culture like a cancer, far too many men have been infected and are picking up the feminist banner betraying the exact principals of positive masculinity that they should instead be supporting.

As Rollo pointed out in Equalism and Masculinity the Feminine Imperative has tried to redefine not only what masculinity is, but what it means to be a man. Rollo explains that this modern social conditioning conflicts with our natural sexual strategies and instincts.  This conflict leads to nothing but the chaos we see every day in the SMP and MMP.   You see men and women having unhealthy and damaging attitudes about not only sex but love and what it means to be in a healthy productive relationship.

Men are checking out of the marriage scheme because for many, finding a suitable spouse has lead to only failure, disappointment and unhappiness.  Observing this it is not difficult to see the corollary between the feminization of men (and the masculineization of women), which started in earnest in the 1960’s, and today’s current rates of unhappy relationships.  It is unfortunate that only a small percentage of me and women in or society have realized this and are actively fighting to counter the attendant ideologies that have caused so much harm.  Someday we might win, but in the meantime there is war in the streets.  Which side will you be on?

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It’s sad that so many men and women both have such a messed up view of what sex is, what it means and the importance of it in a monogamous relationship.  Take the case of Samantha Pugsley who through an unhealthy mix of her apparent hardcore Christian upbringing and her belief in radical feminism maintained her virginity until she married and now has a very unhealthy attitude about sex and especially sex in marriage.

Since pictures can tell a story by themselves this is her a few years ago and her now after her full indoctrination into feminism, colored short boy haircut included.  Her transformation validates that wedding cake is very fattening indeed.

She was able to convince an obviously very beta or omega boyfriend to remain celibate and wait for her throughout 6 years of dating.  What happens in these cases is that she turned her virginity into not only a big part of her identity but an idol.  The end result for these young women who have this attitude is that they often remain unmarried and become old spinsters who are still virgins, which is bad for men and women both.  The 463 point checklists these women create are also a big roadblock for them in their quest for the perfect feminist Christ like husband.  The whole virginity game that religious women and beta men play is harmful and can have lasting negative repercussions throughout their lives.  We see this game played out in celebrating virginity for virginity’s sake with purity balls, rings, and other such unbiblical nonsense.  These women’s virginity ends up being narcissistically all about them and not about the gift of their body to their future husband, as is apparent what happened in Pugsley’s case.

Although this seems far more common in virgin women than men, many of these people end of with unhealthy attitudes about their sexuality which creates sexual dysfunctions as seen in Pugsley’s article and throughout the comment section with women who adopted virgin game ended up disappointed because they failed to realize their unrealistic expectations about sex.  I follow a fellow blogger who also saved herself for her husband, but she was taught by her mother the proper attitude about virginity and about the importance of sex in her marriage and now her and her husband experience the wonders of sex as God truly meant for it to be.  A lot of poor teachings come from the parents of these young men and women.  The fathers of these girls essentially go super white knight and pedestalize their daughter which in turn just gives her unrealistic expectations because no man would live up to the fantasy that she created in her mind with her parents encouragement.  The boys on the other hand are also taught harmful attitudes.  One such thing is even remaining a virgin to begin with.  Unless a young man quickly courts and marries and has sex (which is biblical) he should be experiencing other women.  He should not become promiscuous per se, but a man does benefit from having experiences, sexual and otherwise, with other women.  A young man should never remain celibate just for the sake of waiting but only a short time in order to marry particular woman.  It’s also important to note for those men with moral hang-ups regarding sex, that nowhere in the bible does it instruct men to remain virgins prior to marriage.  I am of course challenged to raise up my 2 daughters with the proper attitude about sex so they will make their future husbands happy and have lifelong happy marriages.

The church is extremely schizophrenic when it comes to sex in general, and especially sex in marriage.  Deti’s comment stood out to me and nailed the point quite well:

From Pugsley’s article:

“When he did, I obliged. I wanted nothing more than to make him happy because I loved him so much and because I’d been taught it was my duty to fulfill his needs. But I hated sex.

“My feminist husband was horrified that I’d let him touch me when I didn’t want him to. He made me promise I’d never do anything I didn’t want to do ever again. We stopped having sex. He encouraged me to see a therapist and I did. It was the first step on a long journey to healing.

“When I have sex with my husband, I make sure it’s because I have a sexual need and not because I feel I’m required to fulfill his desires.

There is always a horribly distorted view of sex and a woman’s sexual role in marriage whenever these discussions are had. A wife is supposed to be sexually available to her husband at all times. She is supposed to give her husband sex when he wants it. Look at it this way: Would a wife put up with a husband who said “well, I’ll work when I feel like it. I’ll give you money to take care of the family when I feel like it, or I think it’s a good idea, or when I decide you need it”. Would a wife put up with that? Didn’t think so. So it is with sex and a husband’s view of it.** But women don’t want this. They don’t want to be totally sexually available to their husbands, for many reasons, chief among them are that most wives just do not desire their husbands sexually. This is a problem because most women are having sex with men who are more sexually desirable than they can get for marriage.

The other prime reason that women don’t want to be sexually available to their husbands is if they are, then they cede a lot of control in the marriage to the husband. A woman before marriage is able to control men by using sex and sexual access. Sex, sex appeal and sexual access are the greatest measures of a woman’s power, and if she gives them completely and totally to one man, she has given up most of her power. She doesn’t want to do this, of course, because that would require her to submit and trust, and what if he screws it up?

** NOTE TO liberals, feminists and other dipshits: I AM NOT SAYING THAT A WIFE IS CONSENTING TO RAPE. I am not saying a wife must have sex when sick or injured or recovering from childbirth. No loving husband would demand sex under those circumstances. I AM, however, saying that a lot of wives unreasonably withhold and limit sexual access. No wife is too busy that she can’t take 20 minutes out of her schedule to take care of her husband’s need. And if she is, then her priorities are screwed up. I am also saying that if a woman doesn’t consent to having sex with a particular man when HE wants to and NOT just when SHE wants to, then she should not marry that man and should not marry at all, because she has a distorted and improper view of marriage.

It is likely she was only a technical virgin and not one in fact.  She states in her bio she is bisexual and so one may deduce that not only do other women join her and her husband in bed, but she likely engaged in certain woman on woman activities prior to marriage.  That said, she was not a virgin and whatever waiting she forced upon her husband was not done in any biblical or moral sense, but as a way to satisfy her own warped view of controlling her own sexuality and sexual morality.  This is evident in her disgusting attitude of “my body my choice”.  All you have to do is read how she hates her husband so much she cannot stand the thought of being impregnated by him and goes ahead and terminates her pregnancy.  I just wonder what the story is behind her husband who waited 6 years in order to have sex with this average looking obviously mentally unstable woman who’s motivations are fueled by radical feminism.  Regardless of one’s religious convictions this man was nuts to remain celibate for 6 years while he waited for this woman.

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I found this article through Empathologism’s site and found it to be quite interesting in that it is consistent to what I have pointed out in some of my recent essays.  Before we get into the overall theme, I want to point how this article and this site in general seems to encourage beta behaviors as it also caters to a primarily female audience under the auspice of helping men in their marriages.  It is important to point out directly that if a man does indeed follow the advice given, it is likely it would negatively affect the happiness of both partners and probably lead to the premature ending of the relationship.

As Anonymous commented on Empath’s article:

The article is deeply flawed as relationship advice because the problem is stated in such broad and fuzzy terms as to be almost without meaning. Empath hit it : what problem is to be solved, here? By lumping in all sorts of visual behavior into one, catch-all category “looking at other women” the author conflates many different male actions with “bad”.

Whatever the intent of the author (and I am not so kind as Empath) the effect is to give a blank cheque to women’s demands. No matter how strictly a man may control his eye muscles, from time to time in the Western world he will see a pretty woman, and by declaring the simple act of “looking” to be a crime or a sin, men are set up in the “Nothing you can ever do will be good enough for me” pedestalization trap.

There is a not very subtle dominance issue in the original article – men are to be accountable to women, period. Oh, and apparently to God as well, but women first. So the standard Churchian hierarchy is reinforced: God > women > men > children.

Although as always, there is more than a whiff of: women > God > men > children, even though it would be stoutly denied by the original author and the various female commenters. But frankly, “God says you have to do what I say!” does bleed over from the first hierarchy into the second without much effort. […]

[‘’’] Even if the author is well meaning, he’s just fanning fears. I’m sure that there are women who will find the article and who were sorta content with their husband / LTR, but who after reading it will find themselves compulsively watching his eyes in order to see what he’s looking at, then taking notes for future reference. So as with so many other “advice” articles, the author is creating trouble in other people’s lives by playing on the fears of women.

In the end, it’s just another example of how the notion that women must control men, and men must submit to women, has become shot through all aspects of at least US society.

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Most of the aforementioned article represents two separate but related issues that need clarifying.  The first is that women will often act hypocritically.  In this article and other on the site, they are flavored with men bad>women good either overtly or implicitly.  However when men understand women’s behaviors and motivations it will help us navigate through the various minefields and shit tests that will inevitably come our way.   This is part of the feminine primary social conditioning that the ‘sphere has illuminated over the last decade or so.

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Men should never notice this.

 

It is worth noting that the comment section represents the various shit tests these women gave their partners and the results of their partners failing and them.  At first, I thought that the women who get upset at their men looking at other women were possibly mate guarding behaviors, but mate guarding would entail that woman actively try to please her husband all of the time and thus keep him interested and invested in their marriage.  However, that attitude was not shown in any of the comments, nor was it presented in the article.  In fact Smith put the entire onus on the man to somehow suppress his natural urge to look at beautiful women.  When considering preselection and women’s attraction triggers, a man who looks at another woman and especially other women showing interests in him normally trigger behaviors in the woman that would reinforce her attraction to her husband.  This would manifest as behaviors such as the woman being more sexually available to the man and a likely increase in a woman’s general submissiveness to her husband.  This is the proper context of mate guarding behaviors and as such should have been mentioned by Smith.  Instead he promoted the general fem-centric view that woman should control men via a man’s sexuality by essentially encouraging the tactic of the women throwing a temper tantrum until a she gets her way.

A brief reading of the comments, which were mostly a repeating of the same mantra, show us that women have no understanding of men and our sexual impulses, nor does it seem that most women are in fact really interested in learning how to improve their relationships.  One such natural and normal impulse is when a man glances and even starts at a beautiful woman.  The feminine imperative tries to shame men and tell them that we are wrong and we should “bow our heads” and divert our eyes” in a perverted display of submission and supplication to the feminine goddess.  As I stated in my comment to his article:

Women have no right to castrate men’s natural urges to appreciate other women.  As one respected writer (Empath) indicated “women generally feel a strong inclination towards letting their morals be guided by their emotions”.  That is probably the underlying cause of a majority of frivolous divorces, only to be spurned on by shit article like this that give women the moral cover they desperately seek.  These same women would set aside their high morals when it comes time to divorce their husbands, proving the above statement.  It’s all about you honey, aint it?

I suspect that the majority of the women who take issue with this are at, or have already hit the wall.  All the comments showed was that overwhelmingly these women are very insecure and not content in their relationships.  I suspect that their men simply look at women who are much hotter than themselves.  I wonder if these women honestly assessed themselves and made themselves more attractive to their men by growing out their hair, losing weight, and being sexually more available and exciting how much less this would be a problem in their relationships.  Of course that would mean they would have to stop being delusional and maybe appreciate their husbands more, but I digress.  The women who got their panties all twisted up seem to constantly need the affirmations and reassurances of their beta husbands that they are the most beautiful women in the world to them, blah, blah, blah.  I pointed out in my comment that no, that with a lot of men their wives are in fact NOT the most beautiful women in his eyes.   It is not hard to notice that with the typical married woman, they gain weight, cut their hair short and it seems deliberately make themselves unattractive.  Even in cases where a man’s wife is still a hottie, men should use caution in telling her this all of the time.  In many cases (with the typical woman) this just adds to her already excessively large ego.  Nothing good comes out of pussy worship.  I will add that in a healthy relationship a man shows his wife his attraction for her on a daily basis through his actions, and a woman with a healthy attitude accepts this as his affirmation of love and attraction.  What we commonly see is that too many women have unhealthy attitudes and expectations.

Fat_chicks_1   Many mens wives.

If I can point at one important thing I learned is that women are responsible for their own feeling, good or bad.  It’s not something men are responsible for in this age of female fickleness and general flakey behavior. Smith adds to this by encouraging the delusions of these women.  He has several articles about how husbands are not attracted to and do not want to have sex with their wives.  The comment sections were hamsterbation in the first degree.  Reading many of the comments on some of his articles it is apparent that many of these women are seeking validation for their behaviors which simply turn their partners off.

My comment was met with the typical white knight shaming language from the author and of course he preemptively dismissed the entire context and premise of what I said;

Michael, You’re correct that insecurities can drive some of the conflict between partners on this subject. However, so can how many men look at other women in such a disrespectful way. Many of your points can apply to both men and women. I wish you had chosen to present them in a more balanced manner, because unfortunately your one-sided, angry approach is going to cause your points to get dismissed. –Kurt

(emphasis mine)

There are two quiz’s on his site, one for men to see how shitty of a husband he is, and another is for wives so they can validate their feelings that their husbands are in fact shitty.  Below is the pitch.

Guys

  • Are you a good husband? Learn more about yourself, take the quiz and see how you rate
  • Learn what women really want from their husbands
  • Discover ways to be a better husband

Ladies

  • Want to know what kind of husband you have? Take the quiz and see how your husband rates
  • Learn how to get the husband you’ve always dreamed of

The questions were typical and I received the grade I expected.

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Heartiste, as usual, does not disappoint in his uncovering of the pretty lies.  What was brought to us today is a young white suburbanite slut who gets chain railed by 12 black men, and then we find out her deplorable beta boyfriend forgives her in a slobbering display of emasculation.

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Women who insist on fucking interracially are like herpes patients.  Women will oftentimes keep their disease a secret from the men they meet and have sex with.  You may never find out as long as she does not have an outbreak when you are together, but an outbreak will eventually happen if you are with her long enough and when it does your in for a world of hurt and your own reoccurring flare ups.  That said, these types of women are irredeemable.  This piece is not about hating on the black men who bang these sluts.  All they did was exploit the opportunity of banging a white slut.  There is no shame in that.  However, it is the women themselves that have shown they totally lack not only self respect but discretion and they care not for any consequences arising from such abhorrent behaviors.  Women like this are going to be more apt to having multiple gangbangs and other examples of extreme sluttiness in their sexual histories and of course lying about it all when pressed for the truth by some future chump husband.  You will see many of them as single mothers, ending up divorced, doing drugs, excessive partying, never married and of course they are also highly likely to cheat if you find yourself the unfortunate victim of her.  Women like this need to always be abandoned by every white man so she may forever chase her love of the BBC.  She is forever contaminated.  As one commenter stated, “after you’ve slept with a black, you just can’t wash that shit off”.

My criticism also does not extent to interracial marriages per se where the marriage was built on a strong foundation (ie: a non gangster, educated, intelligent, well spoken black man and good white girl OR with a balck female/white male when it occurs).  These relationships, although quite rare, normally produce good and decent enough children and they often last if the couple embraces white culture.  The blacks in this scenario were also likely raised in predominantly white environment.  It is the women who date gangster nigga’s and who does shit like this that end up worse than useless for anything more than a pump and dump.  For that matter I would personally just forgo fucking any woman who has fucked a black man regardless of how hot she may be.  Normal (used loosely of course) white women when they hear about things like this will normally feel revulsion in the pit of their bowels.  Even the most progressive of women would feel this.  That is the normal response.  This behavior is the stuff of only but the biggest cum guzzling sluts.  The type of pairing off as brought to us by Heartiste is the common result of interracial relations.

It is important to point out that the different white woman who will usually fuck black men.  There is of course the fatties that white men don’t want anyways.  There are the “hot wives” married to emasculated and neutered beta men.  This is the proverbial cuckold.  And of course you have this prime example of good looking white meat, which although in the minority, this group grows as does the mixed race illegitimate pregnancies it produces thus further handicapping and already handicapped generation.

As this writer stated:

Am I wrong in saying this chick can still get it even after seeing all this, though? Like I’d prefer not to hear about the time she banged the Tuskegee Airmen while we’re hooking up but she’s still pretty sexy and clearly has the moral compass of Pol Pot. Bang of a lifetime if you can keep your dick from melting into Gak as a result.

As for the question on why do white sluts do this shit, aside from the obvious, she’s a slut, because all ho’s do not spread their legs and labia’s equally.  I would speculate that the sluts who will not fuck a black man still outnumber the ones that will.  Unfortunately I think, amongst the millenniums at least, this disparity is shrinking.  Much of this is probably due to the progressives normalizing gangsta behaviors and not holding blacks accountable for their action through PC enforcement against calling a spade a spade if you will.  As it is, the powers that be and rationalization hamsters everywhere are trying to normalize an activity that is quite probably very detrimental to our society.  In the past there where social controls that not only stigmatized this sort of behavior but provided for immediate and harsh punishments for the actors.  These controls are now nonexistent.  If fact we have come full circle and women everywhere will now celebrate other women’s slutty behavior using the guise of being sex positive.

One commentator asked in Heartiste’s article, why white women are attracted to black men?  White men have refused to appreciate how the black man relates to women of all races.  Black men are normally and quite naturally more alpha than white men as a group.  Through selective breeding they also have better muscle development.  I just wanted to randomly throw that out.  You will rarely meet a black man who does not have pussy available to him on demand.  Many unmarried black men maintain harems.  White men can learn a lot by watching a black man interact with various women.  Much of what I have learned is that black men simply have much more moxie in general when dealing with women.  It is not uncommon for a black man to call out to woman and have her respond positively to him.  It seems that black men can sense these women and exploit the opportunities more consistently that most white men.  Also black men do not have the aversion to “group activities” that white men often do.  In my own experience when the opportunity presented itself, I have seen white men pull this sort of thing on various young hotties, but it took one or more of the group being excessively bold to pull it off.  I of course do not recommend adopting or imitating any other aspect of black culture, lest one lessens his overall value.

It is important to point out that black women are probably the most difficult race of females to deal with in a relational and sexual sense.  The black race in general is based upon a matriarchal family system.  This goes back thousands of years to the tribes in Africa and the black community reflects this.  Black women have always been more promiscuous in the sense that it was not unusual for a black woman to have children from multiple men.  The last man in this line would marry the woman and raise all of the children as his own.  This created a strong community with close ties and resulted in generally strong families.  The welfare state basterdized this to the extent of what we see today with the majority of blacks being raised in single mother households and the lack of positive masculine influences’ for these children due to the now incentivizing for these women not to marry lest she lose her welfare checks.  Suffice it to say that without going into this in such detail that would end up reading like a research study, white woman and black women are polar opposites in terms of behaviors as it relates to relationships yet now similar in regards to female sexuality.  Black men have had to evolve and learn certain skills in order to successfully get past the oftentimes over embellished Strong Independent Woman™ personas most black women portray.  This is why white men marrying black women is still quite rare, although it is now fairly common for the opposite to occur.

Now this incident has forever been memorialized on the interwebz where it will stay to only be discovered in some unspecified future by this woman’s beta husband.  He will complain that she will not give him this type of free uninhibited sex and she will come clean about some of her past, and like this woman’s current boyfriend he will forgive her and tell her it was ok that she ate 12 cocks in one night.  She will eventually bore of him and discard him, whilst stealing his money and children from him.  Before she finds her herb, the otherwise good men who meet her will deduce enough of her past behaviors where she will get repeatedly pumped and dumped until her soul is gone and she is nothing but a used up vessel filled only with the semen of the multitudes of lovers and BBC past.  This is the real world consequences for her for that one night of slutty fun.   All we can do is laugh and feel the nausea build up inside of our guts as we use her and her boyfriend as an example that yes, all women do posses this very nature and a beta’a worse nightmare is only one or 12 Alabama Black Snakes away.

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A fun and yet informative article on why sex everyday is very good indeed for marriages.  I would suspect this same attitude would benefit any LTR as well.  It comes on the heels of The Spreadsheet Couples troubles which would not have occurred if the woman followed Meg Conley’s advice. I have to agree with much of what this writer said and would think that her marriage, like others where the wife has a healthy attitude about sex, are likely very happy not only in their marriages but in life as well.  Of course I am a man and when my lovers approach sex like this it does make the relationship oh so much better.

The most important thing I noticed is that in the comment section you can see the truth about our society’s general attitude about sex and specifically sex in marriage.  Our society’s women by an overwhelming majority had devolved its notions of human sexuality.  I expected to read that no man should ever expect sex and how being a mother is somehow so degrading and unempowering.  Well what the fuck is modern marriage for then?  I was of course not disappointed.  No wonder our birth rates are so low and our divorce rates are so high.  Why would a man want to reproduce with such a creature that is the modern empowered woman?  Unfortunately the plugged men in often do.  The comment section essentially became a tirade by these feminists and the dutiful white knights supporting them.  It’s fun to look at these men’s profiles and see that they are fat bastards with peculiar hobbies.  I will briefly mention that if white knights would stop reproducing already or just take the red pill it would go a long way to finally killing off feminism.  However it is only when we put controls back on women’s hypergamy will we see improvements.  Unfortunately it will require the help of the AFC’s and white knights to accomplish this.

The feminists completely freaked out over one statement the author made that being a mother is “one of the ultimate expressions of womanhood”.  That statement is actually highly accurate and I would think that being a mother IS the ultimate expression of womanhood.  The feminists and the white knights, who outnumber the rational folks by a very uncomfortable margin as they always seem to do, go on and on about how it is not right and somehow immoral to see women as having children and God forbid, want to have sex and desire to please their husbands, as the normal beautiful thing it is. When you see a woman who has a positive and healthy attitude about sex, you see her man as also happy and wanting to give her happiness and pleasure.  It’s a self feeding circle of marital bliss.  Several of these women also criticized the author’s over simplification of men’s basic needs, where she said that if we are well fed and well fucked, men are usually pretty happy.  I think many of these types of comments were made by women who simply didn’t want to have sex with their husbands.  I don’t think I can disagree with that statement because nothing says I love you to a man like an awesome sammich before or after some really good sex.

What is ironic is that the women who could not have children for whatever reason really fly off the handle.  Many comments open discuss this.  These women have finally realized that that they cannot have it all as they face the wall and spinsterhood.  Some will snag their beta, but as the words used in the comments, many remain unmarried.  I sense a lot of guilt and regret in those comments, but solipsism and the feminine imperative keeps them from acknowledging their own responsibility for their very own failures.  Many of these commentators then make claims that defy nature and biology.  What these women fail to realize is that their attitudes are hurting their own happiness.  When there is relational equality, there is bad sex and unhappy partners.  You can almost see the bitter tears through the comments.  What the comments from the women boiled down to was that they had all sorts of insecurities about not being attracted to, and attractive to their husbands, being infertile, not being able to orgasm and of course the whole working mother thing and all of its related stresses.  The ideology that these women so believe in is the very same belief system that is the source of all of their unhappiness.

Another issue I want to take to task is that you have many women’s comments speak of how hard it is to work and be a mother and wife.  It is easy to see that all of the working mothers really hate on the SAHM.  Maybe if they reduced their expenditures and did things more traditionally like, oh the woman stays at home and raises the children and takes care of her husband.  It is really out there to think like that, I know.  Modern women will have nothing to do with this notion because raising a family and keeping your man happy is degrading and goes against the branding of the Strong and Independent Woman™.

It has been shown over and over again, and this article just proves it yet again, that the typical modern woman hates everything about masculine sexuality.  That is the medium of the message that you will read in every article from the one above to this one where essentially the same things are discussed.

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Ironically I found the above picture from a magazine article from the 1960’s on the same feminist’s blog.  These women there also criticize the wisdom of the advice given and even go so far as to claim that those values never really existed.  It when I read women talk about these issues I again am reminded that Feminism really is a mental disorder.

The commentators overwhelmingly bash on the one red pill guy who just happens to agree with me, yet he and his ardent supporters of rational thinkers were greatly outnumbered.  As I stated yesterday to a white knight defending feminine imperative:

It could be he was trying to gain their approval in an effort to test the waters because he thinks spanking might be a good idea (unlikely), or he was entering into their frame as a white knight so that he could show these women how great and special he is because he not like that sadistic monkey over at The Reinvention of Man who like to spank his lovers asses red and then have wild sex with them (likely)

Or as Rollo puts it:

“What interested me most about this ‘discussion’ wasn’t just the intensity of the responses, but also how quickly and comfortably the Plugins were in their need to set the “troglodytes” straight. You see, in our disconnected lives it’s much more difficult to express our ideology without real-time social repercussions. We can get fired from a job, kicked out of our social circle, excommunicated from church or not be asked back to the lady’s bridge club when we venture a disenting perspective on a great many topics.”

Essentially the majority of the comments by women call childbearing unnatural, degrading, and unnecessary.  I wonder what how they would react if their mothers though of them as disgusting little parasites, as some of these women called little babies.  Apparently these women failed their biology and sex-ed classes.

One woman tried to enter some logic into the exchange and actually gets close to seeing it.

Cameron Mcmahan , I feel sorry for you…Advice for future…When you are a guy, you cannot make any comment which can in the farthest sense be considered anti-feminist…No matter how valid it is….

I think that the point Mr. Cameron Mcmahan is trying to make is that every species has the main target to survive. There have been many scientific researches about it and have been extrapolated to human species…Why are peacocks beautiful?? Why does lion have a mane?? Why in every species the male is given the extra plumes to impress females?? That is nature’s law…. If you believe that human species is different then that is your opinion and it is equally valid whether me or Mr. Cameron Mcmahan agree with it or not.

Fertile or Infertile, the pleasure of holding , developing and if possible creating a life and a baby IS unbeatable…I have never felt as invincible as on the day the doctor held those tiny feet and told me that you are a mom now…I have friends who have adopted children and they felt the same way when they held their baby for the first time…

I don’t believe that both genders should be treated equal … because they are not “comparable”… I do not believe that creating a good marriage and having children is anyway demeaning…I, for one, am proud to have that role… And yeah, I have been a working woman for a pretty long time and DID give it up entirely by choice and to all the feminists, there is nothing bad about it…

If you do not wish to have children or cannot have children, its ok…you dont have to defend it…you do not need to prove anything to anyone…The fact that you are defending it just goes to show that you have some doubts about your decisions…

So this begs two questions. Is childbearing one of the ultimate expressions of womanhood, or is it THE ultimate expression?  And, would marriages be better if the wife was more giving in sex as an expression of her commitment, love and respect for her husband?

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The most fascinating thing about writing is not only the research involved in composing many of my essays and articles, but it’s the emails and the comments I receive.  I have to say that between commenting forthrightly on other articles from other writers and then writing my own articles, I do oftentimes stir up some strong emotions and opinions in others when I debate them.  I suppose because I am in fact very passionate in real life I am just as passionate in my writing.  My essay on spanking your woman apparently riled up one commenter to such a degree that he shared my work with several women, who must be his friends, in order to get their “opinion” about what I wrote and in turn wrote an interesting comment whereas this essay is my response.

To begin with I think he was seeking the approval of these women more so than anything.  I say this because he received what I believe to be disingenuous responses from them based on the context and what he didn’t say in his comment.  A woman will always respond to a question in a way as to benefit them the most.  The truthfulness of their answer is contextual and is therefore oftentimes subjective.  It could be he was trying to gain their approval in an effort to test the waters because he thinks spanking might be a good idea (unlikely), or he was entering into their frame as a white knight so that he could show these women how great and special he is because he not like that sadistic monkey over at The Reinvention of Man who like to spank his lovers asses red and then have wild sex with them (likely).  The following excerpt from his comment really illuminates the frame the commentator is coming from:

“And I know for a bloody fact that many of them would rather chew off their own arm than be stuck in a relationship that you have described in your blog. I know because I asked them.”

It would have been more useful for the class if he had tried spanking one or two of these women first and then wrote about how his experience was either positive or negative rather than trying to protect the illusion that most women are virtuous.  I suspect he had never spanked or tied a woman up during erotic play.  It’s a pity too.  I also suspect he has many other inaccurate preconceived notions about human sexuality in general.

The questions he should have asked himself is what would happen if I just spanked her when my woman did something I felt was disagreeable?  This goes to the issue of initiating sex versus asking for it.  Asking a woman, “can I spank you” completely misses the point of the exercise and many women will probably flatly respond with a “no”.  They are not saying no because they don’t want to be spanked, they are saying “no” because they do not want a spanking from, you a weak supplicating man in their eyes.  I know this is harsh but the truth is often that way.  This comes full circle back to having the proper frame in order to not only spank a woman, but having her want you to do it, enjoy you doing it and of course having the activity (spanking in this case) bring about positive behavior and reactions such as real respect for her man and of course more intense sexual stimulation.  The key lesson here is that a woman who respects you and admires you will more often than not, want to have sex with you, and she will WANT to please you.

Most plugged in and beta’s are quick to criticize unplugged men’s behaviors and what we write about without first really considering the real issues or the evolutionary biology behind our various essays.  I’m not criticizing anyone because I also had a hard time digesting these ideas when I first began reading the articles and essays I found in the manosphere.  For men who truly want to learn I suggest doing just that.  The links I include in my essays will lead readers to far more detailed information than what is contained in this work.  Continuing, these men will think like this for any number of reasons, two most common of which I will note here.  The first reason is based on a sense of white knightery and of course a skewed sense of chivalry which in our modern society is quite outdated.  The second reason these men criticize works such as this are playing beta game in their attempt to garner a positive response in women they either want to bang or in an attempt to gain a favorable reaction from their wives or girlfriends so they can get that atta-boy and recognition and maybe a little tepid sexy time.

Before we continue let us look at the subject of premises.  I wanted to bring this up because of the 2nd sentence of L’s comment which stated that he has never met a woman who enjoyed being patronized.  I can only surmise by the rest of his comment that he equates spanking and male leadership to patronization of a woman.  He is wrong on that issue as we will see throughout this essay, but the key issue to address is his premise, faulty as it may be.  The truth is that he likely never initiated spanking a woman as it related to his woman’s disagreeable behavior.  I believe that had he at least tried to spank a woman he would have mentioned it and described whether her reaction was positive or negative.  The issue of premise addresses a large portion of his comment and how he tried to create a straw man argument against the idea stating that out of billions of women only a few would like spanking.  The important thing he needs to realize is that he is wrong thinking women are all that different from one another.  Women may like different kinds of food, but all of them like to eat.  Women will also act a certain way most of the time and react to certain stimuli on a primal level also most of the time, given the right circumstances and conditions.  Most men do not understand or appreciate this and refuse to open their minds up enough to learn about it.  I see this when men get angry at their girlfriends who fool around.  They cannot grasp the innate desires a woman often exhibits. A good start would be reading Rollo’s essay that I linked to at the beginning of this section and all of his other essays.  Rollo is probably one of my favorite writers because he addresses many of the foundational truths of evo-psycology and gender dynamics.  That is probably why I link to his essays quite a bit.

I have noticed that when plugged in men are confronted by something they either have no experience with or understand as it pertains to human sexuality or gender dynamics, they immediately seem to ask women what their opinion is about this or that.  We see this with dating advice from woman for men. They fail to realize that women will say one thing and mean something else entirely.  Another such example is as it pertains to spanking directly. This is when a woman says she wants a nice guy.  Any unplugged man knows for a fact that the overwhelming majority of women deplore “nice guys”.  Plugged in men still think maybe his love object will love him if he is nice enough to her and does enough things for her but he soon finds himself with blue balls and dealing with a LJBF rejection while she is getting fucked every which way by the alpha bad boy rockstardrummer asshole.  I want to clarify before we continue that I don’t think women want to be abused with daily beatings, nor am I encouraging that sort of behavior.  I also do not think that a woman would like her man calling her a worthless dirty slut every day either (outside of the bedroom at least).  However most women will certainly not respect and definitely not give the best of herself to the typical nice guy or AFC.  Many women who have already hit or who are approaching The Wall do in fact seek out and find beta victims nice guys to marry them, but those men are considered 2nd or even 3rd tier after she has had all of her fun during her younger most fertile years with all of the hot alphas.

He mentions the woman who was amused by the spanking essay.  She was probably being the most honest of them all.  The fact that these women know the particular name of the protagonist in 50 Shades of Grey suggests they have read the book, which is nothing more than the female preferred form of porn.  I would think that many women who enjoyed that book would also enjoy some spankings from the right man.  He mentions BDSM and its kinkery and how it does not relate to somehow patronizing a woman by spanking her.  I am not sure what his point was, however for many of the individuals who do enjoy a BDSM lifestyle, that is a big part of their life.  Some may live a DDlg lifestyle while some are more into other facets such as the woman being collared and owned, and some others like the dungeon work like in 50SoG.  However many couples do play rope games and engage in soft BDSM, but even all of that is beside the point.  The point is only a white knight or beta chump would consider a man being the head of his household and exercising his headship however necessary to ensure the members of his family are happy and that the household in general is content and peaceful would call disciplining someone, even an adult, “patronizing”.  Nor are spankings considered kinky or BDSM as used in the context I suggested.  When I was in the Marine’s I was disciplined plenty and it was done to ensure the efficient operation of our combat unit.  Because I cannot make my woman dig fighting holes in the yard, a quick spanking is a good alternative that yields many more positive results such as not having a hole in my yard that at some point will need to be refilled.

Society used to have controls on women’s Hypergamic natures, such as slut shaming, marriage 1.0 and teaching male headship.  This was when society, and especially families and marriages were not only gentler in many respects but overall happier and more content.  In our modern society sometimes we need to reintroduce old concepts that once worked so very well.  Amazingly enough as many eventually find out, these concepts really did work as shown in the video in the previous essay, where John Wayne verbally chastises a woman but then spanks her over his knee to reinforce what he said.  The scene ended with him kissing her.  She initially half heartedly resisted but then kissed him back with passion.

Now, I hope this guy read through and thinks about this essay and reads all of the accompanying links.  I hope he does not get to something he does not agree with and stops reading, which is very common.  The men who do that normally end up responding in the typical blue pill fashion by calling aware red pill men misogynists and claim that we have some all sorts of psychological issues, such as he stated that I did in his first comment to my essay.  We in the sphere and unplugged men alike are often called names, shamed and told we are immoral for the mere act of observing and writing about our observations and life experiences and how certain modern day social ideologies affect us in our day to day lives and the lives of other men.  For some reason anyone who does not ascribe to pro-feminine beliefs is somehow labeled a misogynists who hates women.  The real reason these men get upset is that these foundational truths and observations conflict with their feminine conditioning.

My practical advice for living a full eventful life is, “It is better to ask for forgiveness than it is permission”.  This pertains to relationships, sex, and business.  I realized long ago that most men don’t have the guts and instead of doing, they criticize those of us who “do” and try to pull us back in the barrel.  As for the woman who was allegedly disgusted, maybe she was, but I can almost guarantee that not only was she also intrigued by the idea of being spanked by the right man, once she thought about it a little their panties were gooey as a result of the tingles she felt.

I do want to quickly address a few other issues you brought up.  In my marriage my ex wife never abused me.  Her trying to hit me twice does not necessarily constitute abuse on her part or severe psychological issues.  Alternatively, I never abused her either.  Me defending myself and disciplining her also does not constitute abuse.  I will agree with L that she does have anger issues, but most of that could likely be tracked back to her feminist upbringing and her unrealistic expectations of marriageWhen I didn’t respond to her threats in the manner of how she was taught I would, she was became confused and angry because her upbringing and current belief system didn’t equip her with the tools on how to be a good wife in a successful marriage.  My personal toolbox was also lacking.  Other than during sex once in a while I never spanked her although I should have many times.  That is my failing for catering to her feminine imperative and my acting as an AFC.  Had I lead her properly we would still be together, because contrary to what people like the commentator says, women can be taught, as men can be taught.  They are taught every day, what matters is who is leading and teaching them.  Spanking is nothing but a tool to use when teaching a woman to behave in a positive way.  Lastly my ex wife’s beliefs, attitudes and actions were all atypical of virtually every American woman.  You statement in your closing sentence that the hypothesis that women are attracted to assholes has been thoroughly debunked is wholly incorrect when the exact opposite has been not only proven by several studies but also by the man on street who meets quality women and yet rejects the notion of being the nice guy.  Asking some women what their opinion is does not disprove a hypothesis.  Next time please link sources and research materials when forwarding a theory.

Recommended additional reading:

Nice Guys – The Rational Male (multi)

People are People – The Rational Male

Nice Guys – Heartiste (multi)

Chicks Despise Niceguys – Heartiste

Niceguys Lose… Again – Heartiste

Girl Admits She Loathes Niceguy “Boyfriend” – Heartiste

Defining White Knights and Mangina’s – Society of Phineas

White Knighting Explained – Heartiste

 

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This is in response to a Just 4 Guys post about how Stephen Smith was chastised for pointing out that a man does in fact have a right to defend himself when a woman attacks him, as it happened in the Ray Rice incident.  Whoopi Goldberg defended Rice’s actions and the MSM had a field day stating how she was now an advocate for domestic violence.  What the MSM is saying really is that women have a right to abuse men and men do not have right to defend themselves.  I want to cover the domestic violence industry this in more detail in another essay, but for now I want to look at the disrespect a woman must have for a man to hit him in the first place.

Any good relationship entails a woman respecting her man.  Some men do not act in ways deserving of respect, I think we realize this, but for the sake of accuracy I will say that women as a group do not have the respect for men in general that they should.  For us in the SMP this is an area of concern.  We see this when she flakes, speaks to us in a disrespectful tone, ridicules us, and yes, tries to hit us.  I experienced this in my life and I will recount some things that happened and a possible solution that some may choose to follow.

My ex-wife, who was raised to be a feminist swung at me exactly twice in our marriage.  If she was married to any lesser of a man she would have constantly abused him I am sure.  My reactions were what was necessary in the two incidents in order to discipline her and show her that violence of any kind towards me was not going to be tolerated, ever.  In order to have perspective my ex wife is a solidly built women, but athletic who stands an inch taller than me.  She is no pixie.

The first time happened during our first year of marriage.  I was an active duty Marine then and I would train my wife in self defense techniques.  Bad things happen and we lived in a liberal anti gun state at the time.  During one of our sessions she really freaked out.  I am talking seeing red, hitting at full speeds and going for my soft spots.  Apparently recently I really pissed her off about something.  She was always super jealous and I probably got hit on once too many times that week for her liking.  I humored her for a few minutes as I blocked her punches and kicks but I soon tired and it became time for her to calm down.  She didn’t want to stop and renewed her attacks when I gave her a verbal warning.  I had two choices, continue and one of us was really going to get hurt or end things immediately.  I chose to end things.  On her last attack as she came in close I put her in a (blood) choke hold and choked her out.  When she came to, my foot was hard against her throat.  I asked her if she was going to be calm.  She looked at me and I could see the red and the violence drain from her.  I left her alone for a little while and then we talked about what happened and she admitted that because she was angry she lost control.  I told her next time that happens she may get injured.  I seem to remember we had some good sex that night.  I didn’t know about alpha or red pill stuff back then.  I just knew that any woman who hits me will get hit in return.  At that time I was in very good shape and could have hurt her badly if I lost my self control.  I of course loved my wife and didn’t want to hurt her.

Fast forward 6 years.  She was again really mad at me for something.  It was probably one of her jealous fits again, even though I was always faithful to her.  We were verbally arguing and out of the blue she swings at my face. I duck and her fist, yes closed fist goes through the drywall.  This time I am really angry.  She did this in front of our daughters and her reaction to whatever issue was unnecessary and disrespectful of me.  In that situation I would have been justified for knocking her ass out.  However I drop kicked a door, gripped her up by the throat lifted her off her feet and slammed her against the wall.  I snarled at her, “bitch next time you swing at me I will fucking beat your ass”.  Her fear was palpable.  I left the house for the next 4 days.  She blew up my phone, which I ignored and she finally came to my shop to apologize.  She knew if she called the police I would have kicked her out without a moment’s hesitation.

Here is part of the first comment I left on the J4M post:

“Women need to be held accountable for their unprovoked violent actions. Slapping them stings them but is not harmful. Too bad that is frowned upon now. It is only then can things change. I believe change starts at home. If a woman even threatened to call the cops on me for ANY reason I would end the relationship right there to include kicking her out of the house on the spot. These should be part of the rules discussion every man has with his new wife. Oh wait, men don’t do that anymore do they?”

We talked a little about what happened afterwards.  She was always a very poor communicator so most of the issues in our marriage that could have been resolved never were, so I was surprised that we even talked about what happened.  Nevertheless, I told her that I will not be disrespected nor I will not be abused by my wife in my house.  Whatever issue she was angry about was now irrelevant because of her actions.  That was the only 2 times in 10 years she ever tried to hit me.  Both times she was disciplined for her lack of self control.  Even later when she got really pissed at me, you could see her remembering what would happen and she restrained herself from violence.  The sad thing is is that she had to restrain herself instead of the though not being there at all.  That’s something to ponder.  I have pondered this myself and this is why I think men should spank their women regularly for bad behavior as a matter of course.

I did not always believe like this.  In high school I was beat by a girl I was dating.  It’s hard to even defend yourself when you cannot act offensively.  I was not a big guy then either.  At that time I believed in the white knight thinking of never hitting a woman under any circumstances, so I got my ass handed to me.  She broke up with me and then fucked my alpha friend.  Go figure ugh.  It was that experience that led me to start changing my beliefs on hitting a woman and self defense should a woman hit me.  I have never had to slap a woman in the face and I never punched a woman.  In fact the high school girl and my ex wife were the only two women who ever wanted to box with me.

Now, I have seen this type of blatant disrespect in a lot of women.  My wife never respected any of the men in her life and unless I was being uber alpha which is fucking tiring, her disrespect for me crop show up.  She left me when I was in a serious state of beta, because I do get that way on rare occurrences.  No worries though, I am now glad she is gone.

So how do we as men correct the women in our life who have not been taught to respect men and by extension their husbands or boyfriends?

As I said in my third comment:

It’s about discipline and a little dominance.  You do not beat your children black and blue but only a fool parent refuses to use corporal punishment in VERY measure amounts.    Just to clarify, I have never had to spank or slap my daughters, but I retain the option to doing so if the situation demands it.

Just like with a wife of GF.  If she attacks the first thing is self defense then you discipline in measured amounts.  For a man who foolishly insists on staying with a woman who has a habit of wanting to get into physical fights, he needs to learn restraining moves then learn how to discipline, such and a hard slap to the face or even a bare ass spanking like a little kid.

Most men don’t have the moxie for this.  One thing I have seen with feral women is that in many cases they NEED this type of discipline and dominance.  A blue pill beta would never consider type a thing so he gets his ass beat by his woman and then HE goes to jail for DV.  Also a man should definitely and always disciple for verbal assaults and verbal disrespect.  Spanking on the ass is good for this.  You spank her, she cries and then you cuddle her to show your love.  In time she will behave herself.

This advice is not written to be used on normal cool women.  Although many do like to be spanked and choked during sex.  And I NEVER condone hitting a woman out of ANY type of anger.  You don’t discipline your kids or your wife out of anger.  You do it out of love and a sense to bring order and good behavior to the household.

I know I sound like a misogynistic ass, but 50 years ago this was standard fare.  Its society that is wrong not these words.

Watch this video of how things were back when the world made more sense.  Thank you JDG for pointing this out.

 

And lastly my fourth comment:

One thing to note is that this must come from a certain alpha (for lack of a better term) frame. Women desire men there to be dominant.  You do not have to be an ass or even speak loudly.

I started spanking a few years back.  I have spanked 20 year old and mature corporate women types.  I have pulled down on my lap, pulled down their pants or panties and smacked their butts red.  They all react the same way.  Their behavior improves and they become more respectful.  Another side benefit is that there is usually some very hot rip roaring sex afterward.

I don’t know how to start doing this in a relationship that is already solidly in HER frame.  I know I usually bring it up humorously in the beginning of a relationship and when an infraction happens I will spank her.  I then judge her reactions.  If she is negative then I discontinue seeing her.  I do this because when a woman refuses discipline then that means she refuses to respect.  That is something I will not compromise on.  Most women just never learned how to respect men in general.  However, that does not mean that they cannot be taught to do so.  For a woman who is taught this you might just find a woman who will travel to the ends of the earth for you.

Anyone who had read Heartiste or Roosh for example will see that a lot of women like to be spanked and choked during sex.  In my experience this is also true.  They crave the hand of a dominate man.  It turns them on.  It is also something they experience far too rarely.  Noticing this I began to incorporate this during sex.  The women love it and fucking go nuts.  Additionally, I decided to begin spanking women for their bad behavior.  I have seen very positive reactions.

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