Posts Tagged ‘Sex’

ON CELIBACY

Next in the Moralist Series.

Mandated celibacy is a curse for many men who choose to follow this often unrealistic moralist doctrine.  Many moralists will proclaim that celibacy in next to holiness.  However living a celibate life is not natural to a man.  Did not God give Eve to Adam because it was not good for Adam to be alone?  The bible in other passages states it is rare for a man to choose a celibate lifestyle and to do so is akin to having an infirmity.  Could that be why marriage (with its attendant rules and punishments) was heavily promoted in the bible?  However that marriage model no longer exists for any man yet the moralist still promote celibacy for young men of faith as an absolute instead of a preferable standard.  I think it is good for men to reason out their own celibacy to make sure his reason for it are his own and not because of pressure from the moralists or any orginization.  Here is a good article discussing religion induced celibacy.

Should the church just stop discussing human sexuality and sex as it relates to men and women in and out marriage because of the harm and shame it inadvertently causes?  It is observable to see that the church is creating many problems for both men and women in the way it treats human sexuality.

There are two types of celibacy as it pertains to this discussion one is universally mandated (forced) celibacy as promoted by various church doctrines stating sex is only permitted in the state run marriage system, and the other is personal celibacy where a man chooses to remain celibate out of a personal conviction and not based on an outside factor such as certain moralistic teachings.

There are those men who believe that celibacy is preferred because sex is inherently sinful and is only made clean when a man and woman are married.  I believe this attitude is wrong and overall destructive to a man’s healthy sexuality.

Many Christian men feel that this choice has been made for them and are celibate because society and faith expected them to conform to a certain standard of behavior. Rather than choose celibacy as a personal call, they chose to conform to the traditional ethic that has been presented to them as the only orthodox option.

This is not really a personal choice for most of these men.  These men are essentially coerced into believing as such for if he slips up (backslides) while his loin’s burn, he is shamed back into line by his church peers and leadership demanding he repent for his sins.  His attitude causes a man to fell the attending and sometimes crushing guilt for his otherwise natural behaviors.  This guilt will stay with him subconsciously and in turn will negatively affect his sexuality in marriage.

The men who personally chooses to remain or become celibate because that makes him feel closer to God while he is single may choose when to stop being so because he falls in love with a woman and decides to commit to her (in marriage or not) and she commits to him, but eschew modern marriage. This is a personal choice made for his own personal edification and thus does not proselytize to others about his own personal decision.  This does not mean we will not share his views and experiences, but that is different than the judgmental attitude of the typical moralist.

The one way I see Christian men doing quite often is using the rationalization that they want a woman but are saving themselves for marriage when the truth is they could not get laid anyways, and of course there are no marriage prospects nor are they are dating.  This is simply lying to oneself.  For many of these men, had they had the chance and had they been able to meet women, especially secular ones, they would be having sex with them.  I suspect that for the typical professing Christian virgin man his virginity is a curse.  I am afraid that for these men, in his thirst will marry the first woman willing to spread her legs for him.  I don’t see this as moral but idiotic.

So for most men is the Christian form of celibacy a personal choice or a decision made under the weight of crushing and unrealistic expectations, guilt or shame?

Next we will talk about The Double Standard

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The Moralists

August 27, 2014

Dalrock has a post that in the last few days has been gaining traction to becoming quite epic.  The original post discussed a young Christian woman who retained her virginity until marriage and then afterwards discovered she has some serious sexual dysfunctions.  It is obvious reading her story that she has some serious emotional issues as well.  From reading her story it is plain that she was taught that sex was shameful and dirty before she even reached puberty and understood what sex even was.  This is a common teaching that young people receive in almost every church to one degree or another.  These attitudes are not easily changed once a woman finally marries and sex becomes ok literally overnight.  The church’s repression of healthy attitudes about human sexuality and our natural sexual desires is just as ominous as the promotion of female promiscuity which the church also accepts and legitimizes.

It is not difficult to see that the origins of this young woman’s harmful attitudes about sex originated from with her church’s indoctrination and its foundational belief system.  Although she is a stout feminist, her attitudes about sex were likely fully ingrained into her belief system before she accepted the feminist ideology wholeheartedly.  It is important to point out that mixing modern church doctrine with feminist beliefs will almost always cause sexual dysfunction and unhealthy repression in not only women but men as well.

THE DISCUSSION

I submitted several questions and gave some hypothetical’s of issues pertaining to the main topic that I hoped would be discussed in a rational manner.  I also made a few statements to help guide things along.  These were legitimate concerns that many men do have when reevaluating their personal beliefs after taking the red pill.

What resulted was some men decided to mischaracterize what I said and then decided to engage in thinly guised character attacks.  I did not enter into these discussions really caring about what these other men and women think about me personally, nor do I currently care.  What is important is that the message gets through.  The level of debate, emotion, and rationalization from the church men this discussion caused tells me I struck some very raw nerves, which I will explain below.  That is good.  That was the point.  However many of the men who held themselves out as morally superior (moralists) avoided and ignored the most important points and questions I asked.  They engaged in a type of anti-intellectualism that for some of us well read individuals greatly annoys us.  However, not everyone did this, and not everyone held themselves out as a moralists.  These individuals greatly added value to the discussion.  This is pretty long but the problem is big and the solutions must be hashed out.

I will admit that some of my points were not as clear as they should have been.  My mind works extremely fast and as it happens at times, many of these ideas came to me in one fell swoop while I was writing my comments.  I believe this caused some confusion and if so I hope to clarify that here.  Also, because of the personal nature of some of the criticisms against what I wrote and the length of this essay I decided to post here on my blog and link back to Dalrock’s post instead of posting a simple comment.  I am going to break this up into a few different posts so bear with me.

One thing you may notice is that I no longer refer to myself as following any sect or religion.  The thing I find most disagreeable is hypocrisy.  For me to not be a hypocrite myself, for the many reasons below, I am no longer willing to identify as a Christian or promote the church in any way.  I feel by doing so could be harmful to good men by possibly encouraging him to join an organization where he is almost guaranteed to be hoodwinked by the feminine imperative.

ALPHA AND BETA

I am not going to get into a big what is Alpha and what is Beta discussion.  There are enough good resources out there if you want to know more.  However, what those two terms, and other like it such as Omega and Gamma, they are merely adjectives that encompass different sets of behavior patterns, attitudes and personality traits.  All three of these things can be changed in a man to a greater or lesser degree if necessary to achieve certain goals and objectives.  Many men often have a mix of these qualities.  The terms therefore are used loosely in my essays when I use these descriptive attributes.

THE QUESTIONS I PRESENTED

Is sex in a loving committed monogamous relationship just as moral as sex in the current Marriage 2.0 scheme where men are likely to lose?

Is sex between an unmarried man and women in a loving, committed, monogamous relationship inherently sinful?

Is it absurd and unrealistic to expect all unmarried Christian men to remain celibate when there is no other viable and rational option for sexual gratification other than entering into Marriage 2.0?

THE POINTS AND STATEMENTS I MADE

Church doctrine about human sexuality cases more problems and dysfunctions due to the inherent shame that surrounds most churches beliefs concerning sex in general.  This shame manifests itself in men and women even after they marry creating sexual issues in the marriage.

There is no consistency in church doctrine from one denomination to another concerning human sexuality, sex in marriage, marriage and divorce.  Most churches do not uniformly enforce its own edicts and local customs, even ones that are vigorously promoted within that church organization.  Many denominations refuse to teach the entire counsel of God.  The inconsistency on such issues such as divorce have ramification that could affect the salvation of the parties involved.  So how does a man know what teaching is truthful and which ones are in error causing him to sin?

Biblical marriage no longer exists because the state has usurped the bibles’ authority over family, marriage and sexual matter by legislative fiat.  Marriage 2.0 is a government promoted institution to ensure that the state has jurisdiction over a man, his assets and his children for later disbursements to his ex-wife should she choose to divorce him.  For biblical marriage to exist there needs to be social controls in order to discipline transgressors of biblical law.  Civil law would need to match biblical law.

Because biblical marriage no longer exists, a man may engage in sexual relations with a woman who he has a loving committed and monogamous relationship with without incurring the wrath of God or everlasting damnation.  God knows a man’s heart and will judge him according to that.  God will not judge a man for not following and unjust law or religious edict.  Godly suffering comes from God.  God would not place an impossible burden on a man and then call it a sinful should the man choose to opt out of trying to meet that impossible burden.

Additional points and questions relevant to the overall theme of this series and the previous points that were discussed will follow in subsequent essay in this series.

Next essay: Celibacy

I am working on an important post for the thinking man, but first I want to know what morality means to you.  What is the definition you use.  I want Christian and secular perspectives on this, as well as male and female input.

 

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WARNING – There will be boobies

Another Day, Another Total Slut. 

 

This gem of a story was originally found by Vox at Alpha Game.  I was going to comment there but my comment turned into this article.

It is apparently the month of the sluts.  I know it is often fun to discuss the most egregious cases of modern women’s sluttery.  This one is Zoe Quinn and she earns a Total Slut™ award.  She even has her own meme.  This one has green (purple, red) hair, tattoos, and piercings and has done porn for various sites, one of which is called Broken Dolls.  As if that wasn’t warning enough to her now scorned ex boyfriend (Eron), she had cheated on him repeatedly by fucking at least 5 other men in order to get ahead in the gaming industry.  I am still wondering if this story is better or worse than the 12 BB cocks in one night, however that is not even the important part of this story.  Her response (original rant) to all of this on her own blog was nothing but hamsterbation.  She has a strong one indeed.

The gamer community is up in arms, and rightly so because there are issues that are bigger than a green haired slut doing what sluts will do.  If it was just her slutting around, it would just be another article warning men to stay away from these types of women.

This woman has used her victim complex and vagina to gain recognition and somehow launch herself into relevancy among gamers and her fellow feminists and SJW’s.  Her claim to fame in the Gaming industry is a game called Depression Quest.  Yes, I lolllzz’ed too.  She has additionally been accused of misappropriating donated monies, lying, adultery and overt manipulation of individuals, including organizers of charity fundraisers, all to further her ambitions.

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Suppression Quest: The White Knight Rises

She must have been totally wild in the sack to have these many white knights defending her.

The worst part is that she has no redeeming physical qualities that you can’t find in less then five minutes. She muse have fantastic head game.

There seems to be ongoing censorship of any stories and discussions about her getting banged out by these various men who were influential in her getting ahead in the gaming industry and who helped her career along.  She is apparently using those same connections along with her army of feminists and mangina’s to quell any and all dissent.  Stories about her have been censored on Reddit here and here, Tumblr, 4chan, and Twitter, just to name a few.

This is troublesome on a very large scale because if ONE skanky chick has the influence to shut down an entire website covering the scandal and influencing major social media sites to do so as well, what might happen to any one of us in the ‘sphere when we piss off the right (or wrong) feminist?  Dalrock has already had experience with this here.  This is nothing new as The Spearhead pointed out in 2012. It just came to my attention that this may be part of a larger systematic purge and censorship effort in support of SJW’s and feminist women.  If the Vox Popoli story is valid, and I have no reason to believe otherwise watching this happen in real time, the powers that be are willing to sacrifice free speech and information independence over the reputation of a couple of disturbed and corrupt young women.

The gaming community has had several brushes with PC feminists, notably when Adria Richards was fired for tweeting a photo of two men who did nothing more than share a joke amongst themselves, which she happened to overhear.  The linked article by CBS references Sheryl Sandberg and her book “Lean In” as influential in the targeting and persecution of men who offend feminists in tech companies.

Internet censorship is a big fucking deal.  Its importance is up there with the 1st and 2nd amendments.  This is due to the nature and reasons for sharing information.  He who controls the flow of information wins.

Quinn’s supporters have taken to calling anyone who criticizes her actions or her cheating as slut shamers.  I suppose in our brave new misandric world shaming a woman for cheating, not once but on at least 5 separate occasions is unholy and heretical to the feminine goddess.  Fuck them I say because she is a slut.

 

Borderline Personality Disorder

This woman is an attention whore of the highest order.  She has lied about getting hacked, threatened, being doxed (having your personal info put out in the web) and of course she lied to her ex repeatedly about banging all of those other men.  One illuminating aspect of her behavior was that she was very concerned about her ex even talking to other women.  She played the continuous victim and of course was hyper sexual.

I would have to speculate that many if not most of the women who are sex positive feminist have a form of BPD.  Hypersexuality is a strong indicator of this disorder.  By itself you might just have a fun girl to play with, but with the other symptoms and indicators it is easy to spot these women once you know what to look for.  All you have to do is check out their blogs and Tumblr’s to see that most of them have these indicators.  Most of these women have severe self image problems and suffer from depression.  Most will say that they have been abused on many occasions by many different individuals and almost all talk about a bad childhood.  What is usually the case is that they are in fact the abusers.  Fidelity is rare with these types of women.  They also fear abandonment and that could be one of the motivators behind these women’s infidelity.  Even though she may have a personality disorder she should never be given leniency concerning her behavior.

BPD women have an uncanny knack to making men fall hard in love with them.  I have experienced, Rollo had experienced it also and I hope no other man has to experience dealing with a woman like this, but many will because these women are prolific in our society.  Men will fall for them because they are mimics.  These women are empty inside and our id is attracted to the mirror image of ourselves that is projected back at us by them.  What we find out though is that we were in love with an illusion, a pretend person.  As these women age, they become absolutely irredeemable.  The energy required to be in a relationship with these types of women is huge because they will sap a man’s energy and life force out of him over time.  It’s important to note this guy was having panic attacks while she was attacking strange cock.  She then manipulated him into thinking the attacks were his irrationality.  He knew something was up.  Most men do feel this in their gut.  His gamma behaviors aside, this is a very strong indicator and should never be ignored.  Once a man tells her he loves her, the relationship will spiral to its destruction very quickly.

She had been previously married.  Her narrative about her past is essentially she hates her mother, her ex husband and is now vilifying the ex boyfriend.  She called her mother and ex husband abusive and the boyfriend being the white knight that he is, bought that story hook, line and sinker.  It was implied in her ex’s blog that she was the abusive one to both her mother and ex husband.  The boyfriend is a gamma chump, white knight, captain-save-a-ho, and mangina all in one who got cuckolded and even went back to her to be cuckolded again.  This is the exchange between them.  It ends with her making suicide threat (attention whoring) and him going over to “watch” her.  I am not a gracious as Vox and many other because he should have known she was a skank. His attempts to “discuss” her actions with her in light of her lying about her getting banged out just confirms that he deserves what he gets.

Remember this type of girl will always cheat on you, and like her ex stated on his blog, “she was making out with me less than 12 hours after she had another man’s cock in her mouth”.  Fuck, I just hope he didn’t go down on her.  Yuck, I need a shower and a drink after that thought.

The exchange is interesting in that you see both a BPD in action and you see a super strong hamster running hard in this woman.  This woman uses every tactic in the book with this guy and everyone else.

I have to wonder why people have these types of conversations via text and email versus face to face or on the phone?  No wonder the young have such shitty interpersonal skills.

 

The Truth About feminism

Quinn is the poster child for not only the average millennial woman, but she is the poster child of modern feminism.  Over the past several years she has been the championed sweetheart of all schizophrenically hair colored, tattooed, pierced, mentally disturbed, antidepressant popping, sex positive sluts and their white knight mangina supporters.  She has championed such important causes such as “all men are rapists”, “I can fuck whoever I want, whenever I want”, “don’t ever judge me”, and “its only wrong if a man does it”.

One of her typical supporters:

“Sorry. Her personal life is none of our concern. Instead of pointing out that she fucked with 5 different people in the space of two months (I did it with 4 in the space of three and I’m a volunteer EMT, so I don’t think fucking around somehow negates that I put a vast amount of time helping other people in exchange for nothing)”

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So what is the lesson here?  ALL WOMEN have the propensity and instinct to do shit like this.  Your wife, girlfriend, mother, whatever.  All of the opportunities were there, the situations were there, and of course the motivation was there.  A woman normally NEVER tells her lover her true number.  This is an example of that behavior in action and the rationalizations that go through such a woman’s head.

In the various comment sections it is encouraging to read about many young men finally calling BS on feminism and misandry in general.  I realize it is hard for them due to the steady and intense indoctrination these young men go through today.  I have younger friends and it is so hard sometimes to teach them some of the basic truths that were common knowledge only 20 years ago.

It’s still a minority but I do see very rational comments discussing this issue, misandry, corruption and hitting hard against feminism.  That is encouraging.

“Heroes and villains don’t exist” … just gray, gray clouds of amorality… no moral choices.. do whatever gets you power and money and sensual pleasure.. fuck anyone, regardless of commitments. Fuck anyone for any reason, for profit, for career advancement, just fuck everyone, even if you tell everyone else that’s something you’d never do, in the Name of Feminism, fuck everyone, fuck ‘em.

This woman is truly a piece of garbage whose petri dish of a vagina needs to sewn shut in order to prevent further harm to humanity.  She has fucked, lied, stole and manipulated a lot of people to get to where she is at.  It would be great to see her completely ostracized from the gaming community and internet.  Unfortunately I see her getting famous over this and cashing in because people in general are stupid and there are too many white knights gamma’s who will sell their soul just to have their turn with this disease ridden skank.

So there we have it, lies, conspiracy, corruption, steamy sex, jilted lovers, sex for favors, and threats of suicide.  It really does not get any better than this.

 

EDIT: The links below tell much more of the story from different angles.  There are several important issues at play here.  The story about an ugly slut cuckolding her beta boyfriend is the least important part of this story.

LINKS FROM THE ‘SPHERE

The lady that protests too much – Alpha Game

Video Game Developers are Sexiss [Now UPDATED] – Malcolm the Cynic

Kotaku and the Quinnspiracy – Vox Popoli

Zoe Quinn can go fuck herself – Judgy Bitch

http://www.rooshvforum.com/thread-39616.html – Roosh

How Zoe Quinn Screwed Her Way Through The Video Game Industry – Return of Kings

“Sliming Her Vagina Across the Video Gaming World” – Captain Capitalism

Zoe Quinn, Phil Fish and the Great Social Justice Swindle – Matt Forney

You can fight a lot of enemies and survive, but if you fight your biology you will always lose.  (Lord of War 2005)

Destruction

This is a true philosophical statement, ironically made by arms dealer Yuri Orlov.  In Sometimes You Just Have to Look, I noted that men and women will act according to their instincts and it is these instincts that guide both genders to behaving how we do.  That essay was in response to women being upset that their husbands and boyfriends sometimes look at other attractive women.  The sites owners (a marriage counselor) make it a point to counsel men that this behavior is absolutely unacceptable.  What he is really doing is telling men that our natural urges and instincts are shameful, thus adding to the socialization of men to be more feminine.  This creates in us a dissonance between the natural and the social.  This marriage counselor goal is to bring equality to marriages by telling men to act more like women.  That will not work in the long term.

Fighting to uphold positive masculine values is difficult enough in this modern anti-male environment.  If it was only the female feminists we fought against, the war that is waged everyday could actually be winnable while maintaining some semblance of civilization after the fall and the dust clears, but because the indoctrination of the Feminine Imperative has infected our culture like a cancer, far too many men have been infected and are picking up the feminist banner betraying the exact principals of positive masculinity that they should instead be supporting.

As Rollo pointed out in Equalism and Masculinity the Feminine Imperative has tried to redefine not only what masculinity is, but what it means to be a man. Rollo explains that this modern social conditioning conflicts with our natural sexual strategies and instincts.  This conflict leads to nothing but the chaos we see every day in the SMP and MMP.   You see men and women having unhealthy and damaging attitudes about not only sex but love and what it means to be in a healthy productive relationship.

Men are checking out of the marriage scheme because for many, finding a suitable spouse has lead to only failure, disappointment and unhappiness.  Observing this it is not difficult to see the corollary between the feminization of men (and the masculineization of women), which started in earnest in the 1960’s, and today’s current rates of unhappy relationships.  It is unfortunate that only a small percentage of me and women in or society have realized this and are actively fighting to counter the attendant ideologies that have caused so much harm.  Someday we might win, but in the meantime there is war in the streets.  Which side will you be on?

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It’s sad that so many men and women both have such a messed up view of what sex is, what it means and the importance of it in a monogamous relationship.  Take the case of Samantha Pugsley who through an unhealthy mix of her apparent hardcore Christian upbringing and her belief in radical feminism maintained her virginity until she married and now has a very unhealthy attitude about sex and especially sex in marriage.

Since pictures can tell a story by themselves this is her a few years ago and her now after her full indoctrination into feminism, colored short boy haircut included.  Her transformation validates that wedding cake is very fattening indeed.

She was able to convince an obviously very beta or omega boyfriend to remain celibate and wait for her throughout 6 years of dating.  What happens in these cases is that she turned her virginity into not only a big part of her identity but an idol.  The end result for these young women who have this attitude is that they often remain unmarried and become old spinsters who are still virgins, which is bad for men and women both.  The 463 point checklists these women create are also a big roadblock for them in their quest for the perfect feminist Christ like husband.  The whole virginity game that religious women and beta men play is harmful and can have lasting negative repercussions throughout their lives.  We see this game played out in celebrating virginity for virginity’s sake with purity balls, rings, and other such unbiblical nonsense.  These women’s virginity ends up being narcissistically all about them and not about the gift of their body to their future husband, as is apparent what happened in Pugsley’s case.

Although this seems far more common in virgin women than men, many of these people end of with unhealthy attitudes about their sexuality which creates sexual dysfunctions as seen in Pugsley’s article and throughout the comment section with women who adopted virgin game ended up disappointed because they failed to realize their unrealistic expectations about sex.  I follow a fellow blogger who also saved herself for her husband, but she was taught by her mother the proper attitude about virginity and about the importance of sex in her marriage and now her and her husband experience the wonders of sex as God truly meant for it to be.  A lot of poor teachings come from the parents of these young men and women.  The fathers of these girls essentially go super white knight and pedestalize their daughter which in turn just gives her unrealistic expectations because no man would live up to the fantasy that she created in her mind with her parents encouragement.  The boys on the other hand are also taught harmful attitudes.  One such thing is even remaining a virgin to begin with.  Unless a young man quickly courts and marries and has sex (which is biblical) he should be experiencing other women.  He should not become promiscuous per se, but a man does benefit from having experiences, sexual and otherwise, with other women.  A young man should never remain celibate just for the sake of waiting but only a short time in order to marry particular woman.  It’s also important to note for those men with moral hang-ups regarding sex, that nowhere in the bible does it instruct men to remain virgins prior to marriage.  I am of course challenged to raise up my 2 daughters with the proper attitude about sex so they will make their future husbands happy and have lifelong happy marriages.

The church is extremely schizophrenic when it comes to sex in general, and especially sex in marriage.  Deti’s comment stood out to me and nailed the point quite well:

From Pugsley’s article:

“When he did, I obliged. I wanted nothing more than to make him happy because I loved him so much and because I’d been taught it was my duty to fulfill his needs. But I hated sex.

“My feminist husband was horrified that I’d let him touch me when I didn’t want him to. He made me promise I’d never do anything I didn’t want to do ever again. We stopped having sex. He encouraged me to see a therapist and I did. It was the first step on a long journey to healing.

“When I have sex with my husband, I make sure it’s because I have a sexual need and not because I feel I’m required to fulfill his desires.

There is always a horribly distorted view of sex and a woman’s sexual role in marriage whenever these discussions are had. A wife is supposed to be sexually available to her husband at all times. She is supposed to give her husband sex when he wants it. Look at it this way: Would a wife put up with a husband who said “well, I’ll work when I feel like it. I’ll give you money to take care of the family when I feel like it, or I think it’s a good idea, or when I decide you need it”. Would a wife put up with that? Didn’t think so. So it is with sex and a husband’s view of it.** But women don’t want this. They don’t want to be totally sexually available to their husbands, for many reasons, chief among them are that most wives just do not desire their husbands sexually. This is a problem because most women are having sex with men who are more sexually desirable than they can get for marriage.

The other prime reason that women don’t want to be sexually available to their husbands is if they are, then they cede a lot of control in the marriage to the husband. A woman before marriage is able to control men by using sex and sexual access. Sex, sex appeal and sexual access are the greatest measures of a woman’s power, and if she gives them completely and totally to one man, she has given up most of her power. She doesn’t want to do this, of course, because that would require her to submit and trust, and what if he screws it up?

** NOTE TO liberals, feminists and other dipshits: I AM NOT SAYING THAT A WIFE IS CONSENTING TO RAPE. I am not saying a wife must have sex when sick or injured or recovering from childbirth. No loving husband would demand sex under those circumstances. I AM, however, saying that a lot of wives unreasonably withhold and limit sexual access. No wife is too busy that she can’t take 20 minutes out of her schedule to take care of her husband’s need. And if she is, then her priorities are screwed up. I am also saying that if a woman doesn’t consent to having sex with a particular man when HE wants to and NOT just when SHE wants to, then she should not marry that man and should not marry at all, because she has a distorted and improper view of marriage.

It is likely she was only a technical virgin and not one in fact.  She states in her bio she is bisexual and so one may deduce that not only do other women join her and her husband in bed, but she likely engaged in certain woman on woman activities prior to marriage.  That said, she was not a virgin and whatever waiting she forced upon her husband was not done in any biblical or moral sense, but as a way to satisfy her own warped view of controlling her own sexuality and sexual morality.  This is evident in her disgusting attitude of “my body my choice”.  All you have to do is read how she hates her husband so much she cannot stand the thought of being impregnated by him and goes ahead and terminates her pregnancy.  I just wonder what the story is behind her husband who waited 6 years in order to have sex with this average looking obviously mentally unstable woman who’s motivations are fueled by radical feminism.  Regardless of one’s religious convictions this man was nuts to remain celibate for 6 years while he waited for this woman.

Heartiste, as usual, does not disappoint in his uncovering of the pretty lies.  What was brought to us today is a young white suburbanite slut who gets chain railed by 12 black men, and then we find out her deplorable beta boyfriend forgives her in a slobbering display of emasculation.

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Women who insist on fucking interracially are like herpes patients.  Women will oftentimes keep their disease a secret from the men they meet and have sex with.  You may never find out as long as she does not have an outbreak when you are together, but an outbreak will eventually happen if you are with her long enough and when it does your in for a world of hurt and your own reoccurring flare ups.  That said, these types of women are irredeemable.  This piece is not about hating on the black men who bang these sluts.  All they did was exploit the opportunity of banging a white slut.  There is no shame in that.  However, it is the women themselves that have shown they totally lack not only self respect but discretion and they care not for any consequences arising from such abhorrent behaviors.  Women like this are going to be more apt to having multiple gangbangs and other examples of extreme sluttiness in their sexual histories and of course lying about it all when pressed for the truth by some future chump husband.  You will see many of them as single mothers, ending up divorced, doing drugs, excessive partying, never married and of course they are also highly likely to cheat if you find yourself the unfortunate victim of her.  Women like this need to always be abandoned by every white man so she may forever chase her love of the BBC.  She is forever contaminated.  As one commenter stated, “after you’ve slept with a black, you just can’t wash that shit off”.

My criticism also does not extent to interracial marriages per se where the marriage was built on a strong foundation (ie: a non gangster, educated, intelligent, well spoken black man and good white girl OR with a balck female/white male when it occurs).  These relationships, although quite rare, normally produce good and decent enough children and they often last if the couple embraces white culture.  The blacks in this scenario were also likely raised in predominantly white environment.  It is the women who date gangster nigga’s and who does shit like this that end up worse than useless for anything more than a pump and dump.  For that matter I would personally just forgo fucking any woman who has fucked a black man regardless of how hot she may be.  Normal (used loosely of course) white women when they hear about things like this will normally feel revulsion in the pit of their bowels.  Even the most progressive of women would feel this.  That is the normal response.  This behavior is the stuff of only but the biggest cum guzzling sluts.  The type of pairing off as brought to us by Heartiste is the common result of interracial relations.

It is important to point out that the different white woman who will usually fuck black men.  There is of course the fatties that white men don’t want anyways.  There are the “hot wives” married to emasculated and neutered beta men.  This is the proverbial cuckold.  And of course you have this prime example of good looking white meat, which although in the minority, this group grows as does the mixed race illegitimate pregnancies it produces thus further handicapping and already handicapped generation.

As this writer stated:

Am I wrong in saying this chick can still get it even after seeing all this, though? Like I’d prefer not to hear about the time she banged the Tuskegee Airmen while we’re hooking up but she’s still pretty sexy and clearly has the moral compass of Pol Pot. Bang of a lifetime if you can keep your dick from melting into Gak as a result.

As for the question on why do white sluts do this shit, aside from the obvious, she’s a slut, because all ho’s do not spread their legs and labia’s equally.  I would speculate that the sluts who will not fuck a black man still outnumber the ones that will.  Unfortunately I think, amongst the millenniums at least, this disparity is shrinking.  Much of this is probably due to the progressives normalizing gangsta behaviors and not holding blacks accountable for their action through PC enforcement against calling a spade a spade if you will.  As it is, the powers that be and rationalization hamsters everywhere are trying to normalize an activity that is quite probably very detrimental to our society.  In the past there where social controls that not only stigmatized this sort of behavior but provided for immediate and harsh punishments for the actors.  These controls are now nonexistent.  If fact we have come full circle and women everywhere will now celebrate other women’s slutty behavior using the guise of being sex positive.

One commentator asked in Heartiste’s article, why white women are attracted to black men?  White men have refused to appreciate how the black man relates to women of all races.  Black men are normally and quite naturally more alpha than white men as a group.  Through selective breeding they also have better muscle development.  I just wanted to randomly throw that out.  You will rarely meet a black man who does not have pussy available to him on demand.  Many unmarried black men maintain harems.  White men can learn a lot by watching a black man interact with various women.  Much of what I have learned is that black men simply have much more moxie in general when dealing with women.  It is not uncommon for a black man to call out to woman and have her respond positively to him.  It seems that black men can sense these women and exploit the opportunities more consistently that most white men.  Also black men do not have the aversion to “group activities” that white men often do.  In my own experience when the opportunity presented itself, I have seen white men pull this sort of thing on various young hotties, but it took one or more of the group being excessively bold to pull it off.  I of course do not recommend adopting or imitating any other aspect of black culture, lest one lessens his overall value.

It is important to point out that black women are probably the most difficult race of females to deal with in a relational and sexual sense.  The black race in general is based upon a matriarchal family system.  This goes back thousands of years to the tribes in Africa and the black community reflects this.  Black women have always been more promiscuous in the sense that it was not unusual for a black woman to have children from multiple men.  The last man in this line would marry the woman and raise all of the children as his own.  This created a strong community with close ties and resulted in generally strong families.  The welfare state basterdized this to the extent of what we see today with the majority of blacks being raised in single mother households and the lack of positive masculine influences’ for these children due to the now incentivizing for these women not to marry lest she lose her welfare checks.  Suffice it to say that without going into this in such detail that would end up reading like a research study, white woman and black women are polar opposites in terms of behaviors as it relates to relationships yet now similar in regards to female sexuality.  Black men have had to evolve and learn certain skills in order to successfully get past the oftentimes over embellished Strong Independent Woman™ personas most black women portray.  This is why white men marrying black women is still quite rare, although it is now fairly common for the opposite to occur.

Now this incident has forever been memorialized on the interwebz where it will stay to only be discovered in some unspecified future by this woman’s beta husband.  He will complain that she will not give him this type of free uninhibited sex and she will come clean about some of her past, and like this woman’s current boyfriend he will forgive her and tell her it was ok that she ate 12 cocks in one night.  She will eventually bore of him and discard him, whilst stealing his money and children from him.  Before she finds her herb, the otherwise good men who meet her will deduce enough of her past behaviors where she will get repeatedly pumped and dumped until her soul is gone and she is nothing but a used up vessel filled only with the semen of the multitudes of lovers and BBC past.  This is the real world consequences for her for that one night of slutty fun.   All we can do is laugh and feel the nausea build up inside of our guts as we use her and her boyfriend as an example that yes, all women do posses this very nature and a beta’a worse nightmare is only one or 12 Alabama Black Snakes away.

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This is in response to a Just 4 Guys post about how Stephen Smith was chastised for pointing out that a man does in fact have a right to defend himself when a woman attacks him, as it happened in the Ray Rice incident.  Whoopi Goldberg defended Rice’s actions and the MSM had a field day stating how she was now an advocate for domestic violence.  What the MSM is saying really is that women have a right to abuse men and men do not have right to defend themselves.  I want to cover the domestic violence industry this in more detail in another essay, but for now I want to look at the disrespect a woman must have for a man to hit him in the first place.

Any good relationship entails a woman respecting her man.  Some men do not act in ways deserving of respect, I think we realize this, but for the sake of accuracy I will say that women as a group do not have the respect for men in general that they should.  For us in the SMP this is an area of concern.  We see this when she flakes, speaks to us in a disrespectful tone, ridicules us, and yes, tries to hit us.  I experienced this in my life and I will recount some things that happened and a possible solution that some may choose to follow.

My ex-wife, who was raised to be a feminist swung at me exactly twice in our marriage.  If she was married to any lesser of a man she would have constantly abused him I am sure.  My reactions were what was necessary in the two incidents in order to discipline her and show her that violence of any kind towards me was not going to be tolerated, ever.  In order to have perspective my ex wife is a solidly built women, but athletic who stands an inch taller than me.  She is no pixie.

The first time happened during our first year of marriage.  I was an active duty Marine then and I would train my wife in self defense techniques.  Bad things happen and we lived in a liberal anti gun state at the time.  During one of our sessions she really freaked out.  I am talking seeing red, hitting at full speeds and going for my soft spots.  Apparently recently I really pissed her off about something.  She was always super jealous and I probably got hit on once too many times that week for her liking.  I humored her for a few minutes as I blocked her punches and kicks but I soon tired and it became time for her to calm down.  She didn’t want to stop and renewed her attacks when I gave her a verbal warning.  I had two choices, continue and one of us was really going to get hurt or end things immediately.  I chose to end things.  On her last attack as she came in close I put her in a (blood) choke hold and choked her out.  When she came to, my foot was hard against her throat.  I asked her if she was going to be calm.  She looked at me and I could see the red and the violence drain from her.  I left her alone for a little while and then we talked about what happened and she admitted that because she was angry she lost control.  I told her next time that happens she may get injured.  I seem to remember we had some good sex that night.  I didn’t know about alpha or red pill stuff back then.  I just knew that any woman who hits me will get hit in return.  At that time I was in very good shape and could have hurt her badly if I lost my self control.  I of course loved my wife and didn’t want to hurt her.

Fast forward 6 years.  She was again really mad at me for something.  It was probably one of her jealous fits again, even though I was always faithful to her.  We were verbally arguing and out of the blue she swings at my face. I duck and her fist, yes closed fist goes through the drywall.  This time I am really angry.  She did this in front of our daughters and her reaction to whatever issue was unnecessary and disrespectful of me.  In that situation I would have been justified for knocking her ass out.  However I drop kicked a door, gripped her up by the throat lifted her off her feet and slammed her against the wall.  I snarled at her, “bitch next time you swing at me I will fucking beat your ass”.  Her fear was palpable.  I left the house for the next 4 days.  She blew up my phone, which I ignored and she finally came to my shop to apologize.  She knew if she called the police I would have kicked her out without a moment’s hesitation.

Here is part of the first comment I left on the J4M post:

“Women need to be held accountable for their unprovoked violent actions. Slapping them stings them but is not harmful. Too bad that is frowned upon now. It is only then can things change. I believe change starts at home. If a woman even threatened to call the cops on me for ANY reason I would end the relationship right there to include kicking her out of the house on the spot. These should be part of the rules discussion every man has with his new wife. Oh wait, men don’t do that anymore do they?”

We talked a little about what happened afterwards.  She was always a very poor communicator so most of the issues in our marriage that could have been resolved never were, so I was surprised that we even talked about what happened.  Nevertheless, I told her that I will not be disrespected nor I will not be abused by my wife in my house.  Whatever issue she was angry about was now irrelevant because of her actions.  That was the only 2 times in 10 years she ever tried to hit me.  Both times she was disciplined for her lack of self control.  Even later when she got really pissed at me, you could see her remembering what would happen and she restrained herself from violence.  The sad thing is is that she had to restrain herself instead of the though not being there at all.  That’s something to ponder.  I have pondered this myself and this is why I think men should spank their women regularly for bad behavior as a matter of course.

I did not always believe like this.  In high school I was beat by a girl I was dating.  It’s hard to even defend yourself when you cannot act offensively.  I was not a big guy then either.  At that time I believed in the white knight thinking of never hitting a woman under any circumstances, so I got my ass handed to me.  She broke up with me and then fucked my alpha friend.  Go figure ugh.  It was that experience that led me to start changing my beliefs on hitting a woman and self defense should a woman hit me.  I have never had to slap a woman in the face and I never punched a woman.  In fact the high school girl and my ex wife were the only two women who ever wanted to box with me.

Now, I have seen this type of blatant disrespect in a lot of women.  My wife never respected any of the men in her life and unless I was being uber alpha which is fucking tiring, her disrespect for me crop show up.  She left me when I was in a serious state of beta, because I do get that way on rare occurrences.  No worries though, I am now glad she is gone.

So how do we as men correct the women in our life who have not been taught to respect men and by extension their husbands or boyfriends?

As I said in my third comment:

It’s about discipline and a little dominance.  You do not beat your children black and blue but only a fool parent refuses to use corporal punishment in VERY measure amounts.    Just to clarify, I have never had to spank or slap my daughters, but I retain the option to doing so if the situation demands it.

Just like with a wife of GF.  If she attacks the first thing is self defense then you discipline in measured amounts.  For a man who foolishly insists on staying with a woman who has a habit of wanting to get into physical fights, he needs to learn restraining moves then learn how to discipline, such and a hard slap to the face or even a bare ass spanking like a little kid.

Most men don’t have the moxie for this.  One thing I have seen with feral women is that in many cases they NEED this type of discipline and dominance.  A blue pill beta would never consider type a thing so he gets his ass beat by his woman and then HE goes to jail for DV.  Also a man should definitely and always disciple for verbal assaults and verbal disrespect.  Spanking on the ass is good for this.  You spank her, she cries and then you cuddle her to show your love.  In time she will behave herself.

This advice is not written to be used on normal cool women.  Although many do like to be spanked and choked during sex.  And I NEVER condone hitting a woman out of ANY type of anger.  You don’t discipline your kids or your wife out of anger.  You do it out of love and a sense to bring order and good behavior to the household.

I know I sound like a misogynistic ass, but 50 years ago this was standard fare.  Its society that is wrong not these words.

Watch this video of how things were back when the world made more sense.  Thank you JDG for pointing this out.

 

And lastly my fourth comment:

One thing to note is that this must come from a certain alpha (for lack of a better term) frame. Women desire men there to be dominant.  You do not have to be an ass or even speak loudly.

I started spanking a few years back.  I have spanked 20 year old and mature corporate women types.  I have pulled down on my lap, pulled down their pants or panties and smacked their butts red.  They all react the same way.  Their behavior improves and they become more respectful.  Another side benefit is that there is usually some very hot rip roaring sex afterward.

I don’t know how to start doing this in a relationship that is already solidly in HER frame.  I know I usually bring it up humorously in the beginning of a relationship and when an infraction happens I will spank her.  I then judge her reactions.  If she is negative then I discontinue seeing her.  I do this because when a woman refuses discipline then that means she refuses to respect.  That is something I will not compromise on.  Most women just never learned how to respect men in general.  However, that does not mean that they cannot be taught to do so.  For a woman who is taught this you might just find a woman who will travel to the ends of the earth for you.

Anyone who had read Heartiste or Roosh for example will see that a lot of women like to be spanked and choked during sex.  In my experience this is also true.  They crave the hand of a dominate man.  It turns them on.  It is also something they experience far too rarely.  Noticing this I began to incorporate this during sex.  The women love it and fucking go nuts.  Additionally, I decided to begin spanking women for their bad behavior.  I have seen very positive reactions.

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Sexless Marriage Series #2

The Spreadsheet Couple who received so much notoriety as of late as shown some very disturbing trends in how a large portion of American men and women think about sex, especially sex in marriage.

One issue as Dalrock recently brought up is the vagina’s power that women often then misuse with most men.  I agree that the nets reactions was based on the sudden loss of the wife’s V-power and all women’s sudden worry that their men would wake up and realize how tenuous their own power plays really were.  Go read Dalrock’s article and come back.

I will however disagree with Dalrock’s observations that women were only half hearted in their support of the wife.  The articles were essentially all the same, essentially telling us that this guy creates a spreadsheet because his wife didn’t want to have sex and that although she should have used better excuses, no man, and especially this lame ass, should ever expect sex from his wife or any women.  What I read was pretty much all female and most male writers supported the wife directly.

Another issue is the very disturbing trend that I have seen reading the comments on the various articles.   This trend is one of male entitlement to sex, specifically as it relates to the sexual dynamics within a marriage.  Feminist have been telling women that their body is theirs to do with as they please regardless of consequences or context.  At first this was directed towards abortion and the feminist’s belief that only women have a right to decide whether to kill their babies or not.  Of course the fathers feeling in the matter are irrelevant.  However, this same attitude spilled over into the sexual arena.  Now we read stories such as this where a wife consistently denies sex to her husband and he is then compelled to document her refusals and reasons in a spreadsheet.  Instead of working on her marriage WITH her husband, she runs off and posts the spreadsheet and her brief story in the net hoping to garner the support of her sisters.  We then see women and their male supporters come out of the woodwork in droves supporting this woman using the same logic that a woman has an absolute right and even an obligation to refuse sex to her husband anytime she does not feel like it.  The modern woman and mangina really do believe that a woman should NEVER put out if she did not immediate desire sex and that sex should ONLY occur if she wants it.  Of course a lot of blame was laid at the husband’s feet because he approached his wife everyday for sex.  Apparently men are not supposed to do that either.

Now we all know, or should know, that you don’t “ask” a woman for sex, you initiate sex with her.  Oh, I can hear those feminists yelling rape already. Speaking of which, the feminists and manginas often state that anytime any man, husbands included, cajoles, pesters or negotiates for sex it is rape when the woman finally gives it up so her man will shut up about it.  Although I find having to pester any woman for sex unacceptable and I would never do that, I do not think such a thing is rape.  I need to write about what rape is and what it is not.  I know that essay will piss a lot of people off.

So what are a woman’s rights and obligations in regards to her husbands or boyfriends sexual desires and needs?  As I stated before, MEN NEED SEX.  I am not talking about duty sex which is lame and is usually less satisfying than looking at porn and jerking off, I am talking about good mutually enthusiastic and satisfying sex.  Without regular quality sex men will normally drift away from his spouse emotionally.  In time he may want nothing to do with her.  This happened to me. My now ex wife always maintained the belief that men are not owed sex and we ended up drifting far apart, so much so that I had zero desire to even try to reconcile with her after she left.  Needless to say our sex life was lame, I looked at porn, she pulled a Jenny Erickson and left.  On the other hand an ex girlfriend of mine not only told me she believed her job was to keep me utterly satisfied, our sex life was such that I had no thoughts of looking at porn and we even adopted the practice that every orgasm we each had would be with the other person.  No more going solo.  She didn’t care if I looked at porn, but we both wanted to share ourselves with each other all of the time.  Simply put, she derived satisfaction by tending to my needs and I derived satisfaction tending to her.  Yes there were times I didn’t want to have sex but because I cared for her I did it willingly and enthusiastically and I’m sure there were times she didn’t want to have sex also.  Ok maybe not, but she still would have had sex anyways.  Another thing to mention is that by cuming inside her pretty much every time I think the bond between us was greatly increased.  Also, regular sex keeps our man parts in good working order and we do feel discomfort and even pain if we have to go too long.  Either way men’s bodies are designed to have sex and ejaculate very regularly.

As Dalrock puts it:

A wife who almost never wants to have sex with her husband is a terrible wife.  As with a slut, only a foolish man would (knowingly) fall in love with a frigid woman.  However, unlike the slut she isn’t even desirable.  A frigid wife is powerless, undesirable, and (romantically) unlovable.  This recognition is what so horrified women around the world when the spreadsheet went viral.

We know that some women will refuse sex often, even when she wants it in order to leverage the power of her pussy.  However this is not the way God or nature intended things to work.  Reading Dalrock’s statement above we see that a frigid wife is a bad wife, a woman not even deserving of our love.  He is right.  Even the ones who “claim” they do cook, clean, etc. unless they are tending to her husband’s sexual needs she is still a bad wife.  You can hire out most of a wife’s other duties, but sex should not be one of them.  Sex is the only bio-chemical bonding a couple will experience.  I have yet to meet or hear about a sexless couple that is happy with two normal adults.  Although no woman seems to understand her own body as well as she should, that is fine because the amateur gynecologist is here.  Reading the comments from Scarymommy’s article it is easy to deduce that sex reinforces the bond between a loving monogamous couple such as a husband and wife.  You will read many of the wives report that they feel so much closer to their husbands with the more sex they have with them.  Without getting into the science, let me say that the science backs this up.  I just made a Walsism, oops.  Anyways, I will save the scientific details for another essay I am working on because it’s that important and it’s interesting.

A wife owes her husband sex.  Even in other committed and monogamous relationship sex is owed to the other partner.  We explored the health benefits and the benefits to the relationship.  Let’s now look at another issue the feminist will certainly scream about.  Us men we work hard for ourselves and our families.  Oftentimes we sacrifice our happiness by not doing things we would rather do or work a job we would enjoy more but the pay would be much less.  Also when we get married we EXPECT that there will be regular and enthusiastic sex with our wives as much as reasonably possible.  For the promise of our commitment, which men honor way more than the modern women does, we want sex, which is also part of the promise and commitment on the part of the woman.  What we do not want is to be the second man eating off of the same plate, which all too often happens.  Married women and women in committed monogamous relations have a responsibility to have a genuine desire, and to actually have sex with their men.  She owes it to him for his commitment to her and in exchange for his work.  If she no longer is sexually attracted to him then she should end the marriage and refuse to take any of his assets when she leaves.  In other words a woman might have to fake it, yes I know, but if she truly loves him her negotiated desire will likely change to the genuine desire which is so important in any couples relationship.  When a woman marries or otherwise commits to a man she loses her right to continually say no.  If she has a medical condition that makes sex difficult she needs to address it immediately.

One thing about control and feminism as it pertains to this instant issue.  Feminism and by extension pretty much all American women desire to control men’s sexuality.  They will use their frigidity, or refusals to have sex, their anti-porn stance, and of course the all too common tactic of using sex as currency.  All of this boils down to not just women attempting to control men’s sexuality but women controlling the whole man.  If you have a woman like this it’s simply better to leave.  It will suck at first but in the end a man will be better off.  I have noticed that many frigid women and women who use sex as power have deep emotional issues and unresolved baggage in their lives.  All you have to do is talk to a feminist pansexual woman for only a few moments to smell the psychosis.  One study pegged over 20% of American women fall into this category.  Unfortunately these same women can behave themselves long enough to snare an unwitting man into a relationship with them.  As I said before the man should just leave her.  If for whatever personal or financial reasons a man decides to stay, he will have to game the shit out of her hard and be at the peak of his own emotional strength.

I think there is some good advice here for those so inclined.  The rest of this woman’s site is actually pretty  illuminating.