This is in response to a Just 4 Guys post about how Stephen Smith was chastised for pointing out that a man does in fact have a right to defend himself when a woman attacks him, as it happened in the Ray Rice incident. Whoopi Goldberg defended Rice’s actions and the MSM had a field day stating how she was now an advocate for domestic violence. What the MSM is saying really is that women have a right to abuse men and men do not have right to defend themselves. I want to cover the domestic violence industry this in more detail in another essay, but for now I want to look at the disrespect a woman must have for a man to hit him in the first place.
Any good relationship entails a woman respecting her man. Some men do not act in ways deserving of respect, I think we realize this, but for the sake of accuracy I will say that women as a group do not have the respect for men in general that they should. For us in the SMP this is an area of concern. We see this when she flakes, speaks to us in a disrespectful tone, ridicules us, and yes, tries to hit us. I experienced this in my life and I will recount some things that happened and a possible solution that some may choose to follow.
My ex-wife, who was raised to be a feminist swung at me exactly twice in our marriage. If she was married to any lesser of a man she would have constantly abused him I am sure. My reactions were what was necessary in the two incidents in order to discipline her and show her that violence of any kind towards me was not going to be tolerated, ever. In order to have perspective my ex wife is a solidly built women, but athletic who stands an inch taller than me. She is no pixie.
The first time happened during our first year of marriage. I was an active duty Marine then and I would train my wife in self defense techniques. Bad things happen and we lived in a liberal anti gun state at the time. During one of our sessions she really freaked out. I am talking seeing red, hitting at full speeds and going for my soft spots. Apparently recently I really pissed her off about something. She was always super jealous and I probably got hit on once too many times that week for her liking. I humored her for a few minutes as I blocked her punches and kicks but I soon tired and it became time for her to calm down. She didn’t want to stop and renewed her attacks when I gave her a verbal warning. I had two choices, continue and one of us was really going to get hurt or end things immediately. I chose to end things. On her last attack as she came in close I put her in a (blood) choke hold and choked her out. When she came to, my foot was hard against her throat. I asked her if she was going to be calm. She looked at me and I could see the red and the violence drain from her. I left her alone for a little while and then we talked about what happened and she admitted that because she was angry she lost control. I told her next time that happens she may get injured. I seem to remember we had some good sex that night. I didn’t know about alpha or red pill stuff back then. I just knew that any woman who hits me will get hit in return. At that time I was in very good shape and could have hurt her badly if I lost my self control. I of course loved my wife and didn’t want to hurt her.
Fast forward 6 years. She was again really mad at me for something. It was probably one of her jealous fits again, even though I was always faithful to her. We were verbally arguing and out of the blue she swings at my face. I duck and her fist, yes closed fist goes through the drywall. This time I am really angry. She did this in front of our daughters and her reaction to whatever issue was unnecessary and disrespectful of me. In that situation I would have been justified for knocking her ass out. However I drop kicked a door, gripped her up by the throat lifted her off her feet and slammed her against the wall. I snarled at her, “bitch next time you swing at me I will fucking beat your ass”. Her fear was palpable. I left the house for the next 4 days. She blew up my phone, which I ignored and she finally came to my shop to apologize. She knew if she called the police I would have kicked her out without a moment’s hesitation.
Here is part of the first comment I left on the J4M post:
“Women need to be held accountable for their unprovoked violent actions. Slapping them stings them but is not harmful. Too bad that is frowned upon now. It is only then can things change. I believe change starts at home. If a woman even threatened to call the cops on me for ANY reason I would end the relationship right there to include kicking her out of the house on the spot. These should be part of the rules discussion every man has with his new wife. Oh wait, men don’t do that anymore do they?”
We talked a little about what happened afterwards. She was always a very poor communicator so most of the issues in our marriage that could have been resolved never were, so I was surprised that we even talked about what happened. Nevertheless, I told her that I will not be disrespected nor I will not be abused by my wife in my house. Whatever issue she was angry about was now irrelevant because of her actions. That was the only 2 times in 10 years she ever tried to hit me. Both times she was disciplined for her lack of self control. Even later when she got really pissed at me, you could see her remembering what would happen and she restrained herself from violence. The sad thing is is that she had to restrain herself instead of the though not being there at all. That’s something to ponder. I have pondered this myself and this is why I think men should spank their women regularly for bad behavior as a matter of course.
I did not always believe like this. In high school I was beat by a girl I was dating. It’s hard to even defend yourself when you cannot act offensively. I was not a big guy then either. At that time I believed in the white knight thinking of never hitting a woman under any circumstances, so I got my ass handed to me. She broke up with me and then fucked my alpha friend. Go figure ugh. It was that experience that led me to start changing my beliefs on hitting a woman and self defense should a woman hit me. I have never had to slap a woman in the face and I never punched a woman. In fact the high school girl and my ex wife were the only two women who ever wanted to box with me.
Now, I have seen this type of blatant disrespect in a lot of women. My wife never respected any of the men in her life and unless I was being uber alpha which is fucking tiring, her disrespect for me crop show up. She left me when I was in a serious state of beta, because I do get that way on rare occurrences. No worries though, I am now glad she is gone.
So how do we as men correct the women in our life who have not been taught to respect men and by extension their husbands or boyfriends?
As I said in my third comment:
It’s about discipline and a little dominance. You do not beat your children black and blue but only a fool parent refuses to use corporal punishment in VERY measure amounts. Just to clarify, I have never had to spank or slap my daughters, but I retain the option to doing so if the situation demands it.
Just like with a wife of GF. If she attacks the first thing is self defense then you discipline in measured amounts. For a man who foolishly insists on staying with a woman who has a habit of wanting to get into physical fights, he needs to learn restraining moves then learn how to discipline, such and a hard slap to the face or even a bare ass spanking like a little kid.
Most men don’t have the moxie for this. One thing I have seen with feral women is that in many cases they NEED this type of discipline and dominance. A blue pill beta would never consider type a thing so he gets his ass beat by his woman and then HE goes to jail for DV. Also a man should definitely and always disciple for verbal assaults and verbal disrespect. Spanking on the ass is good for this. You spank her, she cries and then you cuddle her to show your love. In time she will behave herself.
This advice is not written to be used on normal cool women. Although many do like to be spanked and choked during sex. And I NEVER condone hitting a woman out of ANY type of anger. You don’t discipline your kids or your wife out of anger. You do it out of love and a sense to bring order and good behavior to the household.
I know I sound like a misogynistic ass, but 50 years ago this was standard fare. Its society that is wrong not these words.
Watch this video of how things were back when the world made more sense. Thank you JDG for pointing this out.
And lastly my fourth comment:
One thing to note is that this must come from a certain alpha (for lack of a better term) frame. Women desire men there to be dominant. You do not have to be an ass or even speak loudly.
I started spanking a few years back. I have spanked 20 year old and mature corporate women types. I have pulled down on my lap, pulled down their pants or panties and smacked their butts red. They all react the same way. Their behavior improves and they become more respectful. Another side benefit is that there is usually some very hot rip roaring sex afterward.
I don’t know how to start doing this in a relationship that is already solidly in HER frame. I know I usually bring it up humorously in the beginning of a relationship and when an infraction happens I will spank her. I then judge her reactions. If she is negative then I discontinue seeing her. I do this because when a woman refuses discipline then that means she refuses to respect. That is something I will not compromise on. Most women just never learned how to respect men in general. However, that does not mean that they cannot be taught to do so. For a woman who is taught this you might just find a woman who will travel to the ends of the earth for you.
Anyone who had read Heartiste or Roosh for example will see that a lot of women like to be spanked and choked during sex. In my experience this is also true. They crave the hand of a dominate man. It turns them on. It is also something they experience far too rarely. Noticing this I began to incorporate this during sex. The women love it and fucking go nuts. Additionally, I decided to begin spanking women for their bad behavior. I have seen very positive reactions.
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